'Don't know yet' on Bumble.

[Usemyname123]

For anyone who hasn't used Bumble, there is an option to put what it is you're looking for, relationship, something casual, or this 'Don't know yet'.
Anyone used it and had a relationship come out of a don't know yet situation ?
I'd like a relationship but i'm always a bit hesitant and swipe left if I see this, it makes me think that they will decide if they want casual or more depending on how much they like you. I'm not willing to be 'graded' like that. What do others think ?

Is it bad that I judge people if they decide they don't like you enough so you will do for casual but they will have a relationship with someone they like ?

Yes, I had ‘don’t know yet’ on my bumble profile and so did my boyfriend when we met on there. We just clicked and then we knew, I think I was lucky but it can happen.

Surely that's the point. You wouldn't be in a relationship with someone you're not into but might want something casual. Whether you put casual/relationship/don't know yet things change depending on the person.

I think people interpret things differently so I would not discount a person for that selection but ask fairly early on what they mean by that. On pof there is similar.... Wants to date but nothing serious... Could be construed as just wanting very casual, I had a relationship with someone who stated that and he just meant no marriage / kids etc but was definitely looking for a relationship.

People interpret differently and people also put what they think will attract more people.

It's kinda harsh to say, oh I don't like you enough for a relationship but you'll do until someone better comes along. But not everyone means that when they put it that's true, and definitely I guess people think it might come across as desperate or whatever if they put 'looking for a relationship'.

it makes me think that they will decide if they want casual or more depending on how much they like you

Erm yes. Surely thats exactly what it means?????

I always discount men who have that listed or the equivalent (e.g. looking for “hookups” on OKCupid). For me personally, I have a bad pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable men so I need to at least start with someone who wants a relationship 😂