How long was your 'break' or 'space'

[Novocaineforthesoul]

DH has asked me to leave because he needs space to think about what he wants.

Or rather " I know we need to talk. But I think we both need space to think about what want"

Fuck.

My life is over. I'm sleeping at my mums house 80+ miles away. He doesn't want to talk to me. That was his last text after I tried to initiate a conversation. I don't know how long to give him.

How long was your break or space if you've had one? I feel like I've fucked up my entire life

What has led up to this?

Lied about money. Me that is.

How bad a lie?

How bad was the lie , if you have a problem like gambling or shopping addiction then you need help.

I had 2 weeks break before deciding to end my marriage. My ex DH ignored my need for time and now emailed me/text/called /turned up unannounced which didn’t help. He also started using dating sites in those two weeeks. Which is why the decision to end it was made.

If your DH has asked for time then Honor that. And if you need gambling/addiction help then start to get it now.

Is this the first time this happened (I mean the lie, not the break) or part of a repeating pattern? Is he controlling over money and that’s why you felt the need to lie? I agree with Nofool that if you have a serious problem, getting help for it may help him to realise you’re serious about addressing it.

Yes he was controlling with money. He made me scared to tell him I had lost my job so instead of telling him I just got a loan out and spent that.

I've also been diagnosed with bi polar and have been put on medication for it. I've got rid of all my accounts, I've cleared the debt, and I got rid of all my credit cards and the only bank card I have now I one where he can see real time updates of my spending.

Sounds like your relationship has finished and that sounds like a good idea.
I wouldn't go back if I was you. Concentrate on you.

OP, you must see that this was not a healthy relationship. You were unable to be honest with him about a very important matter! Honestly it sounds like this relationship was dead in the water. Stop thinking about getting back together and focus on yourself.

OP, I think I remember you from a previous thread. If he's asked for space and you've agreed to it, the worst thing you can do now is push him to talk. Give him some cooling off time. It's hard to say what the outcome will be, but the whole situation is likely to be 'lighter' if you both have time to process and be good to yourselves,