Relationships and insecurity

[MissB83]

Does anyone else really struggle with insecurities when dating?

I just started seeing someone new after my sons dad (my son is nearly 2, but his dad and I were sort of on and off over time until about 6 months ago). I've been dating the new guy about a month.

I don't feel like there's anything to be insecure about with the new guy. He messages me throughout every day to check in, we meet up regularly, he listens to me and tries to help with stuff, he opens up about his life, and we have a good sexual connection. He just helped me take down a shed in my garden!

But I still feel absolutely racked with insecurity: every time I see him I think he will change his mind and I won't see him again, that he is too attractive for me, etc etc. This is how I am all the time with relationships. It's so frustrating!

Does anyone else have these issues?

Have you looked in to your attachment style?

I realise I have an anxious preoccupied attachment style and I have watched Briana McWilliams a lot, every clip, they have helped me a lot.

I used to start off all sparky, myself, my own life, and then over time I became too obliging and accommodating and good men are repelled and only abusive men like that.

Keep time for yourself, make SURE that the things that made you feel like you, you keep doing them.

@SalmonOfKnowledge wow I never heard of that and it's ringing so many bells!!

I have just read this and it's me exactly and I hate it about myself and drives people off.

I need to stop. But how?

@WanderingLost167 exactly! I can feel how unattractive it is to behave like that but I can't stop myself...