what do I do to change the situation? It’s always me making the effort to drive to see family. They are an hour away. It’s been about a year since they came to my house. My mother is on my back constantly to see me, see the kids but then the effort/cost/journey is always on me. If I say no then she gets moody. I’ve got small kids, school stuff, housework, groceries to sort etc but she wants me over at hers! So I’ve said today no. I’m exhausted. Why don’t you come to mine if you want to see us and she won’t come! What do I do? Do I just refuse to go over unless she starts making some effort back? I’m sick of always being the one running after people. I want to be the one sat in my house while people come to visit me! I don’t know what to do for the best.