Hi everyone
I have a close work friend who was married for over 30 years when, unfortunately, her Husband suddenly passed away. Six months after he passed she started seeing an old friend, but old friend was in a relationship at that time. So their liason consisted of a quick bonk here and there when his girlfriend was out of the way. I personally think he preyed on my friend when she was extremely vulnerable and grief stricken.
Fast forward a few years. He has ended his relationship and is now exclusively seeing my friend. The problem is, they haven't had sex for over 12 months and this is currently all my friend talks about.. But she won't confront him about it because she's scared that he will end the relationship. I have told her until I'm blue in the face that she needs to talk to him about it, but she just won't. I know she's upset about it, she's cried many times on my shoulder.
My feelings are that perhaps this guy gets off on the chase or the naughtiness of an affair, and now that he no longer needs to chase my friend, the sexual thrill for him has gone. They see each other a few times a week, she cooks for him and they go out at the weekend for a meal or whatever. they live seperately and are both in their 50's.
Can any of you shed any new light on this situation, or advise me on how I can advise her? She's a nice person and I don't like to see her so down and upset.