Am i wrong for forgiving him?

[overtherainbow111]

Just before Christmas I found another women's number saved in my partner of 3 years phone. He had saved the number under an alias so I wouldn't notice but after seeing a number of calls on his phone to this number i checked the image on WhatsApp and it was a woman (he had been deleting the messages)

We had been trying for a baby and i had an early miscarriage early December and became fairy depressed and sort of withdrew from the relationship emotionally and didn't want to be intimate. He had met this women on a lads night out a few days before I had discovered this so they hadn't had a chance to meet yet and although he swears he wasn't going to I will never know how far it would have gone.

We broke up I kicked him out and had the worst Christmas ever having just lost a baby and then dealing with a breakup. He begged and pleaded and I decided to give things another try but i have been cheated on before and i know from personal experience once a cheat always a cheat. I feel like i'm making a huge mistake as i can no longer trust him :( We were in the process of buying a house together and he wants to try again for a baby but now i'm not sure what to do and if me taking him back will be the biggest mistake of my life?

Any advice?

Don't beat yourself up. Just make a plan to get him out again. Keep posting here if it helps.

Aww I am sorry. I hate the part you're at.
Yes can you message him then?
Fairly soon, and then get round to somewhere that will make you feel better?
You could turn your phone off so none of his msgs come through and you could look again at the life you thought was before you when it was all off over Christmas... was there anything exciting or good about aspects of that life?

I've always feared there will be no one else after a breakup but there always is. The guy I'm with now is fabulous. Hed sooner cut off his arm than act like this guy has, when you needed him the most.

It tells you that in times of life's struggle, he will bug out and leave you to face it alone.

A little pain now will save you a lifetime of that, and the act of accepting nothing like it will ensure you get nothing like it xxxx

You made a decision and have now changed your mind, as is your prerogative at any time, and for any reason! No need to feel bad about that.

If you own the property or rent it in your name, he can simply move back out.

If you don’t dump him immediately, use contraception! And don’t buy a property.

I agree if you want the chance of a nice life you need to finish with him.
Why would you be thinking of bringing a child into this chaos?

What do you mean you don't know how to end it?

You tell him it's over and break all contact. You don't need his agreement and you don't need to justify himself. You don't need to engage with any manipulative crying, begging, pleading, promises or anger from him.

You've made your decision. It's not up for debate.

How are you doing OP? I really hope you have managed to end things now, he sounds so awful