Post Break-Ups! What do we do to get over the pain?

[caitbarker]

Hi Everyone!

i have posted recently about my relationship that was going down hill.. long story short, he ended it, messed with my head for the past few weeks via messages telling me he loves me but cant be with me (although he wants to) and that he wants us to do the unusual thing and be friends.

in the meantime, making me homeless, in debt for him (my parents had to help me) and having to relocate back home (100 miles away).

now i know you will all be thinking.. doesnt all of that just make you want to block him or hate him. but lets be honest who can ACTUALLY do that straight after a break up when youre in so much pain.

please can anyone help on getting over this and not letting him get to me or get upset?

There is no quick fix - it takes time. Being in contact with him makes it worse, like picking a scab you wont heal. You can’t be friends - why would you want to be when he’s treated you so appallingly?

I agree with Lozzer, only time will heal things and you will NEVER heal if you remain in contact with him. You need to go no contact. It’s hard I first but I promise it gets easier OP

Time heals all. Cut all contact. It only makes getting over someone take longer. Focus on you and eventually you will have someone else to look forward to and who will be a better match!

@Lozzerbmc
@Justyouraveragehuman
@Mamabear12

thank you all, i didnt contact him last night and i havent this morning (hardest is mornings and bed time). my mum said to me this morning, why would you want to contact him? youre not gaining anything because he said he's made up his mind (i was blind this week as he keeps telling me he loves me but 'i know the crack'.)

i am really determined not to give in

Yes, just keep strong. And I wouldn’t reply if he contacts you. Don’t let him have his cake and eat it too.