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TryingToSurvive1 · 06/02/2020 08:26

Hi all looking some advice, long story short me and the ex broke up 7 months ago we stayed friends, were flirty, even slept together. We have a DD together and 3 other children from different relationships. We had issues with their mums, we would fight about things get back together then never fix the issues. Then one day I ended the relationship, as I say we did stay friends. He would ask me to go on trips with him, make flirty comments and then one day he just stopped talking to me unless it was about our dd. When I would ask him about this he would give a random answer and turn it on me. I found out he is talking to someone and he even admitted he was scared to tell me cos he knew it would hurt me. After a fight - in front of the kids - he admitted he doesnt know how he feels about even talking to this new girl, that he would be lying to say he didnt still have feelings for me, that after the fight he cant see us back together cos it's not fair on the kids- which I totally agree on it not being fair - but it's obvious he still cares about me and the relationship. Why else would he have been the way he was up until a month ago? I'm very confused.

I know no contact right now with the exception of talking about our daughter is for the best but I'm so scared that I'm gonna lose him forever. He is one to say things in the heat of the moment and I think he is just saying we are over for good cos he is angry at me and he knows I want us back. The whole thing is making me sick, and I cant stop thinking about it. The thought of him with someone else makes me cry.

Can any one offer advice, even how they may have dealt with a similar sitiarionm

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Purplewithred · 06/02/2020 08:30

The kids need stability. What do you actually want? All this half in half out drama is bad for all of you. To be honest it sounds to me like he wants to move on.

TryingToSurvive1 · 06/02/2020 13:48

So when we broke up I knew it was cos we weren't sorting issues out. I made it clear that we needed time apart but a long term separation not short term especially because of the kids. He was gutted. So we ended up building quite a good friendship and.we didn't involve the kids , we would do things with our DD who is 1 and each other. I thought we were on the same page that in time we would get back together and that we were working on some issues, like communication etc.

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Lozzerbmc · 06/02/2020 21:51

How long were you together and why did you break up? It doesnt sound like you are particularly compatible

TryingToSurvive1 · 07/02/2020 07:57

3 years and I broke up with him cos I had post natal and PTSD after my childs birth but I didnt wanna tell anyone. So I was just pushing him away and it wasnt fair on him

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TryingToSurvive1 · 07/02/2020 07:57

Plus other issues when it came to the kids

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