No second date?

[saucyspice]

Hey guys,

So I went on a date with a guy last Tuesday and it all went well both said we had a good time etc.

We have been messaging back and forth since but he hasn't asked me out again. I asked him for the first drink so I am reluctant to ask again.

Do you think he's not really into me and I should just move on? He's not really ever going to ask me is he...

He might be shy or be expecting you to make the move again if you did the first time, if he’s still messaging don’t see why he wouldn’t be interested maybe say something casual like what are you up to this weekend

He might be shy, I'd just ask him on another date. You've nothing to lose but a never ending penpal relationship.

Thanks both, I think I just really wanted him to ask me this time as I don't want him just to accept to be polite...

Depends on how much you like him really.

Tbh you have nothing to lose by asking him, but if you don't you may regret it, especially if he is a bit shy.

Maybe mention your last date a few times in conversation in the hope he catches a hint and suggests another.

I wouldn’t op. I think he should be asking this time. Did he seem shy on the date?

Christ. All these shy and nervous men eh? What utter bollocks

OP, you know the score here I think. I'd pull back a bit for now. If he's interested then he will ask you out. If he isn't , he won't.

I agree KipperBang but MN seems to really encourage women to keep making the first move and to “go for it” even when the other person isn’t giving anything back. No one should be doing all the running/chasing just to prove men and women are equal

Exactly @pumpkinp - far better to read the signs and play it accordingly as opposed to chasing him down.

Self respect at all times! This doesn't mean you patiently waiting for him to ask. It means you focussing on other stuff so he becomes an option and not something you're putting energies into

The fact that you're still messaging is a good sign! But you both know how this works, you both know that he's got to be the one to initiate the second date. Hope it goes well for you x

I think if he wanted to see you he would ask. I'm sure he'll meet you if you ask, but do you want to do all the chasing?

I know it would be nice for him to ask and as it is his 'turn', it would feel a lot more reciprocal. However, if he isn't asking, you can wait and text indefinitely, let it fizzle, or ask him yourself. At least if you do the latter you will know whether he is keen to meet again. You may note that I don't have a lot of patience with endless texters!

The trouble with it is that it seems a lot of the time it’s just to prove a point, that women can message/ask out first aswell, but where do you draw the line? She’s asked once, to ask again seems it’s not mutual. No one wants to be the one doing all the running. Give him a chance imo, if he doesn’t ask them I think you know he is just not that into you, if he was keen he would ask, “shy” or not.

Keep some other irons in the fire.

Thanks everyone for your advice, think I will message him just dropping a hint and if he doesn't ask after that I will simply give up and move on! X

Just ask him what he’s doing at the weekend. It’s not chasing - it a a text conversation and you’ll either meet and have a nice time or know to move on