I’ve just found out my step dad has had a 5 year affair, ended when he was no longer in the same area as the OW. My mum found out when the OW wrote her a letter.
My mum has know for the last 6 months and not told anyone as she was trying to work out what to do. It turns out this isn’t the first time, he also had an ongoing relationship with a woman when my half sister was a baby 25 years ago. I assume this is the tip of the iceberg.
I am obviously absolutely apoplectic with rage. I have had lots of long conversation with my mum and she is on the verge of leaving him however I’m concerned that there is a narrative of self blame creeping in (they weren’t having sex, she didn’t give him enough time etc). he’s also gone to counselling and is making a big effort to change/ be an ideal husband.
I really really wang her to leave him and want to support her any way I can but feel like I need to do it gently. I need advice in helping her see through his bullshit and dealing with my own rage