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He's definitely lost interest

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mrshappen · 05/02/2020 06:47

Feeling so shit.

After a long time single (years) I started dating. Online. Met a lovely man, went on a few dates, texting every day... he was super keen. Constantly telling me he really liked me. I liked him Aswel. Anyway he has definitely cooled off lately on the texting.. like short messages with no questions in ect. You know in your gut you just know? He used to message me all evening but now he doesn't.

We met on an app, he told me he wouldn't be messaging anyone else or anything as he was only interested in me right now. (I am super naive i know)

I deleted the app as I was still getting messages and I wanted to just concentrate on one guy rather than have several on the go. Again I realise I'm naive.

But my gut was saying he's just not into me anymore so I went back to the app to see if he has been on and yep, was active a few hours ago. He wouldn't have been checking mine as he knew I deleted it because I was getting lots of messages.

It's fine, I won't lie I am gutted as I liked him a lot. I'm not going to message him again or anything and get back on the app and get myself back out there!! I don't need advice as such but just to vent really, feel crappy because he really did keep saying he liked me a lot and built my confidence up, now it's just been torn down. We do have a date planned Friday but that won't be happening now. I think once I stop initiating texts he won't try anwyay.

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LellyMcKelly · 05/02/2020 06:58

You’ve only been on a few dates. You should be keeping your options open. In your shoes I’d get out there again. Online dating can be brutal but I met my lovely DP on an app, so it can be worth it.

mrshappen · 05/02/2020 07:07

@LellyMcKelly yeah you're right, I'm not going to put all my eggs in one basket from now on!

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Stuckandsadintheupsidedown · 05/02/2020 07:49

Don't let a man be the source of your confident my lovely

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 05/02/2020 08:09

I'm sorry, its shit isn't it. I've been ghosted a few times. And so easy to do today. I was first ghosted in 1991 😂

Obviously you're a bit wiser now this has happened so try to position it in your head as a valuable learning experience!

And from my experience, most people will do a lot of things to get a shag. And they will SAY literally anything. Words are wind.

mrshappen · 05/02/2020 09:30

Yeah I feel silly being disappointed but never mind!! He's actually text me this morning but no question or anything so I'm gonna leave it. Feel like he's keeping me on the back burner but is chatting to someone more interesting

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Ilikethemhotnearly40 · 08/02/2020 17:58

Did you hear anymore Mrs?

mrshappen · 08/02/2020 19:15

Yep, I've heard lots!! He has been doing a lot of chasing, funny that! I've had a lot of other interest so I'm not putting all my effort into him. I'll see what happens!

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MousematsRule · 08/02/2020 19:31

Ha how predictable! Did he see you back on the app?

mrshappen · 08/02/2020 19:35

Indeed! Yeah maybe, funny how they want what they can't have 🙄

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Ilikethemhotnearly40 · 09/02/2020 09:26

Ah glad you've had lots of other interest. Give him a taste of his own medicine lol. Keep your options open.

Very good advice from PP. Don't let a man be the source of your confidence. I'll definitely be taking that on board. It comes from within Flowers

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