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Have you ever ghosted someone

32 replies

neverornow · 04/02/2020 21:40

And if so, why? What reasons were there to justify it in your mind?

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Urkiddingright · 05/02/2020 14:58

Yep, a few times and I don’t regret it or feel guilty. I went on a date with one guy who just creeped me out so I got on the bus home and blocked his number. Ghosted one guy I dated for a while because I thought we were exclusive until he text to say he had chlamydia so I should get tested too. Nice one. I don’t regret it.

Spied · 05/02/2020 15:01

Ghosted a mum 'friend' who latched on to me and infiltrated herself into my life as much as she could. She was strange and toxic.
She didn't deserve an explanation.

Spied · 05/02/2020 15:03

Currently in the early stages of ghosting another 'friend'.
I seem to attract horrible people.

Sarcelle · 05/02/2020 15:36

I was ghosted by an aunt, my mum's younger sister. I was very close to her. My mum died in my early teens and she became a mother figure to me.

She got married again in her 60s and she slowly distanced herself although we met occasionally chatted on the phone. We had a final day out in London and had a great day shopping and having lunch. We parted on friendly and warm terms. That was the last time I saw her.

I rang her a few days later to tell her that a relative on my dad's side had died and she just said, oh really, got to go. A short and abrupt call, offish tone.

I rang her a few times after that. The same short call. I asked her, she said she had to go. I thought maybe it was her husband but he is a nice guy. She had done the same to another sister and a few of her friends way before she met him, so had previous for being quick to slight and falling out with people.

I never heard from her again. Her daughter (who I have never been close to) called me a few years later to tell me she was in intensive care. I was on holiday and she died a day later.

I went to her funeral. Funny after such a long and caring relationship I was relegated to the friends seat at the funeral. Whilst we were waiting for the funeral to start a few of her elderly (bingo!) friends asked me who I was. When I said I was her niece, her friends said she was always talking about you, so proud of you. Which was odd given the ghosting.

I never really processed the loss of her (when she was living). It did hurt but I suppressed it by thinking of her as a bitch. But it did hurt deeply, like losing a mum again.

Sorry for the essay. Never really spoke about it to anybody. But ghosting is a completely shit thing to do. You might have a valid reason but giving that reason gives closure rather than the abyss you are left with when you are ghosted.

TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront · 05/02/2020 15:53

I ghosted a ex boyfriend because he was frighteningly stalkerish. After literally a day of no communication from me (I was at work!) he started telling me I best talk to him, he had cancer, and all sorts of other shit to get me to talk to him. He even texted my dad (whose phone I had used weeks before due to my phone battery running out, so he had the number).

I had intended to break up with him properly but after that day I just ghosted him completely. Sick fuck that he is, deserved it.

TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront · 05/02/2020 15:58

Oh I also ghosted my best friend for a few years when my eldest was newborn. I didn't realise it at the initial time of the ghosting beginning, but I had PND. I then felt too ashamed to get back in contact as she's a social worker and I was scared she would judge me, tell people I was ill etc.

God bless her heart she made one final attempt to get in contact via my husband when the baby was now nearly 3! So I just came clean and apologised for my shitty behaviour. Still feel awful for it now, but she forgave me as she understood I wasn't in my right mind.

Wereallsquare · 05/02/2020 16:36

Yes, I have. The occasions involved people who were disrespectful (houseguest who barely spoke to me, locked my cat in a room, left dirty dishes in the sink, ate the last of fruit and bread and did not replace while I was working long hours so nothing for breakfast, blah, blah, blah) or insulting me, or gaslighting me. I regret not confronting them sometimes, but what a waste of breath would that be really.

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