I've just written a post and halfway through realised something...

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I just started writing a post in chat about my partner, just needing a rant but barely halfway through I realised I'm in a shitty relationship that's been shifty for years, I've brought a kid into the mix, but now I realise I need to get out. The issue is how?
I can't afford to live by myself and raise the baby, I can't afford to work and pay for childcare, and I can't afford to save up to make it easier.
I keep getting told by my mum who was a single parent and raised three of us to just stick it out, to hang on in there until the baby is in school (another three and a half years, by which point the issues will have been going on for 7 years). She says at least he doesn't hit me, which he doesn't, but he always snaps at me, makes me feel like shit by asking what it is I do all day because I haven't had time to do the washing up or wipe down the baby's tray from lunch as she needed a bath straight after and hardly naps, told me the other night that he believes I'm the type of person to keep the baby from him if we split up (this was during a discussion of if we want to be together/work as a couple anymore, and he later backtracked and said he meant only if he lived with his parents again but nevertheless it hurt to know he thinks that of me), won't come near me even for a cuddle or a kiss (today was a rare baby free day and he wouldn't hold my hand down the street, last week we had a baby free night as his mum was looking after the baby so I could work and he just turned his back to me and fell asleep), and just makes me feel low in every aspect of my life really I guess.
I know things would be harder as a single parent, I know he does do a lot of things towards the house, but now he's only working part time and expecting me to work full time I don't even see him as contributing towards the family properly (he still expects the baby to go into nursery on the days she does instead of pulling her out seeing as he's at home despite it saving us £200 when we're going to be about £300 worse off anyway).
Should I just stick it out, carry on resenting him but sticking around to make life easier raising the baby/affording to raise a baby or should I get out and still feel like shit because I'm even poorer and have no help but at least I'd be away from him?

"at least he doesn't hit you"?!

You know the answer I think OP.

With all respect to your Mum "at least he doesn't hit you" is shitty shitty advice. Does she really set the bar so low for what you deserve?!
I'm sorry you're going through this 💐
I'm not convinced life without him would be that much more difficult... he's not helping you much now is he?
You're working full time, he's part-time ... tell him to wipe the fucking high chair tray!

I think you know you need to leave. Far better for your baby if you do it now, rather than when she'll notice a big difference.

Have you checked out what benefits you'd be entitled to? Will your P pay maintenance, do you think?

Perhaps check out citizens advice? They may be able to give you a better idea of what you can expect from benefits ect.

It sounds like you will be better off out of it!

Oh well if he doesnt hit you... crikey...

I was a single parent until my son was 4 then we moved in with DP. I think it was easier when just the two of us frankly!

I worked 4 days a week it was hard sometimes especially if DS didnt sleep but you just deal with it. I did have support with childcare 2 days a week with my parents so was lucky, nursery 2 days next door to my office (and parents lived close and were very involved).

The upside is you have no one else to consider other than you and your child...

Your partner sounds like my ex. Except it was him that used to say at least I don't hit you.
Yes it is hard single parenting but its a damn sight easier than walking on eggshells and parenting.

I became a single mum when my DS was little and it was so much easier just me and him than it was when I was with my ex. I wasn’t half as much stress. What did help me though was family and friends supporting me, do you have that?

Sorry everyone my internet decided to have an hour off!
I know I'm better off out of it, but I'm trying to think bigger picture and wondering if I am better off waiting it out even just a year, picking up work where I can and saving the money so I can move out and get started on the right foot, or apply for housing now and leave as soon as I'm offered somewhere.
I think he has every intention of paying maintenance, and I have every intention of pursuing it, but if we split up he'd have to move back in with his parents and if he did that I can't see him working if I'm honest.
I don't have much support to be honest. I regularly go weeks without seeing most family members, the ones I do see are only popping in waiting for something better to come along. I have one friend but she works full time and we have a catch up once every few months. I get more support from his family if I'm honest, they're the ones that looked after the baby when I first went back to work, and are my sounding board if I need to rant about something. However if I was to mention him to them they listen and agree, and then downplay it by either bringing up how "bossy" I used to be (asking him to get me a drink or whatever when we were at his house as I was 14 and didn't like to ask his parents directly but also couldn't go a full day without a drink) or by saying he's getting used to being a dad so I've gotta be patient even though I'm getting used to being a mum and need him to be patient too!