Loving someone

[pinkpixie83]

Do people put conditions on loving someone?

I'm in a reasonably new relationship... 4 months.
We were talking the other night and I mentioned that I'd been considering getting my nose piercing redone, he then went on about the history of piercings and how people didn't realise what they used to signify when they had them done, which I acknowledged but the meaning of a piercing from way back isn't something that concerns me, I had my nose piercing because I liked it no other reason.
He then went on to say if I'd have had it when we met I wouldn't have got past a first date and it was an easy way for me to end the relationship if I had it re done.

He can't like me all that much if something as simple as a stud in my nose would cause the relationship to end can he?

He is free to end the relationship for any reason he likes. You are also free to end the relationship due to him trying to control you and your appearance.

I wouldn't date someone with a nose piercing, personally, as I don't like them. It's a very new relationship so how deep can feelings be at the moment? You may just not be compatible at the end of the day!

I don't think he's being controlling necessarily - it could just be his preference. I swipe left if men have a visible tattoo. That doesn't make me controlling. I wouldn't want to date someone with a face piercing either tbh.

Were you suitably entralled by his imparting his pearls of piercings wisdom? Lol.

What a boring know-it-all he is! Does he think he's all 'woke' and deep with his history of piercing and signifiers? (And why the fuck does he know these things if he's not actually into piercing?)

What was wrong with a simple "I'm not attracted to women with piercing to be honest".

Whatever about him not fancying you with piercings, my fanny would dry right up with that kind of intellectualising pratishness. 😁

What a ridiculous mansplaining twerp he is OP. I'd have just pointed out that nobody asked him and told him he seems a little over invested in MY body for someone I barely know, but ok. Making unsolicited comments that boil down to your value being less if you get a nose piercing is bloody weird- threatening that it's over by default if you do it? . Get the piercing, ditch him.

Red flag that he's trying to control you into agreeing with him and not altering your appearance because of his preferences. Why do you want to be with someone like that anyway?