How to physically move out and on...

[FroggyGreen]

I don't have a car. We share a rented property. He pays all the bills etc. I look after the kids and study part-time. I have no income but enough savings to tide me over until I get a job. No close friends and no family nearby. If I leave, how do I move our things out and where do we go? Can I kick him out instead and take over the bills? We have a joint tenancy so I don't know if I can kick him out anyway. Anyone that's been through similar, what did you do? How did you manage financially?

If you are both named on the tenancy then you can't kick him out. You're both entitled to stay at the property. I'd suggest speaking to Citizens Advice

Can you move closer to friends and family?
Why did you move away in the first place?
What are the problems in your relationship?
I would suggest getting away for a while to begin with, if you can.
With no transport it will be harder.
Would a family come and get you?

What are the problems in your relationship?

Several years of paying more attention to his phone than me, despite many promises to put the goddam thing down.
Lying to me, and making out it was paranoia..until I caught him out with evidence.
Now evidence of cheating.

I'm heading to CAB.

I think you need to start applying for jobs as soon as you can. Even something part time will give you an income, entitle to you to working benefits rather than unemployment ones (which would require you to seek work anyway) and set you on your way.

If you desperately want to move out as soon as possible, go to the Entitled To website and check what benefits you’d be entitled to - these will guide you on what you’ll be able to afford to rent.

Practically - you can hire a man and man to move your belongings, if you don’t need to move at a peak time like evenings or weekends then it shouldn’t be expensive.

Hey. Yes, check what you would be entitled to and look into getting a job. Also, think about custody - if you look after the children whilst he works, he may need to give you maintenance etc.

How did you get on at CAB?
Hopefully they were helpful?
Have you talked this out with someone in real life?
It really helps to get it out there - trust me!!
Have you reached out to family?

Your financial situation has materially changed, therefore you may need to reconsider being a student. Either work or claim. Both have up and down sides.

Moving, pay for a man and van. Do favours in babysitting now, and call them in on moving day.

I've seen plenty of women go through this just fine. Claiming will make finding a house more difficult, working entails waiting for salary to come in etc. But it's a long road to freedom and it just gets better and better xxx you'll be fine. Save every penny you can xxx

hellsbellsmelons

How did you get on at CAB?
They gave me some links for legal advice. I can't claim financial help as I have savings.

Have you talked this out with someone in real life?
Yes, I just have. Unfortunately I don't have anyone close in this country but I have support from afar, it seems.

Have you reached out to family?
No, I don't have any close family that can help. Very elderly penniless parents and nc sibling.

Savings are for situations like this. Use what you can to get away.