Still love cheating dh

[Needsawakeupcall]

I know the answer to this, but I just need to rant. We've been married a long time but I think I've come to the end of my tether. Dh has been very good with the now adult dh, always there for them and adores them. On the surface he has been good to me, generous and loving. However, there is another side to him. He's a total dick head.
1 He has a string of failed businesses behind him, due to lack of a good business sense.
2 He's tried, unsucessfully, to bend the rules; which resulted in bankruptcy, losing our lovely family home & imprisonment for fraud.
3 All the time over the years reassuring me all was well.
4 Recently found out he's cheated so many times. If she's got a pulse he'll have his wicked way. I'm surprised he hasn't brought home any std's.
I know what I should do. I'm usually so strong but not when it comes to bad boy, twattish dh.

I don’t understand why you are still with him or what advise you want?

I feel so beaten & tired, but there is only one option - kick his sorry ass to the kerb and start all over.

No advice needed @Shev1996, my first sentence says "i know the answer, but just needto rant" No one needs to read or reply if they don't want to. It's just so hard to find out about the cheating on top of everything else.

If he’d been faithful I might be able to stand by him through all the bad decisions and business failures. If he’d been a competent businessman and provided well for the family, free of any drama, stress, worry and criminal convictions I might be able to forgive him the infidelity.

But both? Not a chance. What is left out of this sorry mess that’s worth clinging to?

Then if you need reassurance yes you need to leave him

Haven't you wasted enough of your life on him already?

There's nothing left, he's not fit to lick my boots. It's greed, trying to make a fast buck that led to bad business decisions & greed for women. Now he just looks like a sad old failed man

Then leave OP

We all do, @Needsawakeupcall

I am 10 years on and I still love my husband. I am still so sad that our family ended this way.

I have accepted that this is just the way it is.

Nothing wrong with having a rant, OP. What a tough situation and so emotionally draining for you. Hope you can move forward with some strength and purpose, however long that takes. What sort of RL support have you got?

That is so sad.
It is very heartbreaking to see the person you have loved for a lifetime left as a 'sad old failed man'.We have a strong instinct to rescue him once again, as we have done so many times before, but it isn't possible.

I am very sorry, OP.

You know the answer but you just need to get it out there I am thinking.

That is ok, things always seem clearer when you have written them out and read them back again.

You are strong. You have been through hell by the sounds of it. You are just worn down right now.

Good luck OP. Not going to say it is an easy road ahead, but my goodness it will be a whole lot better for you.

You do love them, that is why it is so hard when they betray you. I tried so hard to forgive my ex and it has taken a long time to realise he didn't deserve my love.