Anyone fall for their DH before he fell for you in the same way?!

[Annie63s]

I’m 35 and a month ago I met someone that I actually think I’ve fallen in love with. I’ve never felt like this and I’m usually a strong minded, even cold person! Very matter of fact and quite cynical. I have no problem attracting men usually but with this man I’m so nervous and shy that my personality doesn’t always come out all the time when with him!

I can tell he’s not where I am but he’s keen to arrange dates and makes a clear effort to spend time together. Sex is incredible.

I’m terrified! Anyone else been in this situation?! Did it work out?

Propose to him, can't see anything going wrong

Thanks i’ll do it now

Well the other way round but my now DH fell way before I did. I'd just come out of a horrible relationship and couldn't face a nice guy so kept pushing him away. Anyway I finally saw the light and ten years later we've been married 5 years and have a nearly 2 year old.
When we talk about it now he tells me he just knew I was the one and knew that I'd realize it too one day.

A month is very soon to be in love. However keep your cool and continue enjoying the dates and sex and he may develop the same feelings. It’s very early to launch in and tell him

Yes. It took 2 1/2 years but he finally realised!

Yes. After knowing each other for months, he asked me out. Date 4, we were going to bed and he muttered 'night, i love you'. I panicked as i wasn't there, he hadn't even been on my radar a few weeks before hand, however he'd been silently falling for months as our friendship grew. He didn't say it again for a few months, until he was sure i was at the same stage. We are almost 10 years down the line now, married with 2 children.

Yes - I knew from the first date it was different with my now DH, and loved him from a few weeks in. He initially was in the same place, but then pulled away, took about 6 months before he was back there. I was his first relationship (ie. longer than just dating a for a bit) since he'd had a horrendous break up so he needed to go slower. Was worth the wait :)

Whether someone's fallen before the other, a month is very early to be having such strong feelings.
You're in the beginning, head rush phase with someone you really like - nothing wrong with that. It's fantastic and loads of fun.
Don't overthink it or rush anything.

You need to cool yourself down a bit, because you don't even know him really. It sounds as though, if he were to ghost you or meet someone new now, it would break your heart.
Avoid putting yourself in that position.

Don't let all common sense go out the window.

I also trust in this quote and it became so true. When I was younger I would go all wobbly and gooey over the men I thought I loved; when I met DP it was a lovely sensation of calm.