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Jenniferjenn · 03/02/2020 21:03

Hello,

I have been with my (20F) boyfriend (21M) for about 8 months now and have known each other for over a year and a half.

We are both going to study abroad together. He bought a plane ticket with his friends when I had clearly asked to fly with him. His reasoning is because he thinks I would bother him so much that he would get kicked off.

I wanted to live in the same building as him because why not? He said no, he thinks I would never leave him alone but he is living with that same friend. (Different rooms, same building, What I wanted). To note: I understand not wanting to be neighbors with your partner but the fact that he needs to "recharge" from me but seeing his other friend everyday, hurts.

I cannot help but feel incredibly hurt and offended.

I will admit we have had issues in our past in fighting but that is something I have worked on tremendously. It seems no matter how much effort I put into not fighting him, into just trying to communicate my discomforts, it turns into an argument. It seems like he just reverts to fighting because there is no patience anymore.

Not to be dramatic but it flat out feels like he doesn't love me, at least not in the same amount that I love him.

He thought that seeing me four days in a row was too much, he told me he basically needs two weeks to "recharge" from seeing me.

I do not want to see him everyday but you know at least once a week is okay for me. We live in different states which is why I saw him so many days in a row in the first place.

Is this normal behavior of a man who truly LOVES his woman? What does a loving man act like? Isn't there more desire?

Not to mention he is not sexually attracted to me because of our arguments.

What the do I do? I feel so misunderstood, unloved, am I expecting too much?

OP posts:
Chihaha · 03/02/2020 21:06

8 months?! Go and enjoy your studying abroad. It doesnt sound like he sees things as seriously as you do.

Lozzerbmc · 07/02/2020 23:03

I think it may just be running its course. He doesnt sound very invested in the relationship. You are so young.

Needing to recharge from you isnt a good sign....

Do you think you are too needy/dependent?

JKScot4 · 07/02/2020 23:05

Why would you ‘bothering’ him get him kicked off a flight?
Tbh he doesn’t seem to like you and this is his way of getting away from you.
Let it go, walk away.

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