Verbal Abuse, single parenting, young kids

[MissMe0607]

Hi mums,

I've been married to my husband 3 years now and when he gets angry (over often very trivial things) his anger escalates and I'm subjected to foul language and name calling. On a few occasions this has been in front of the children.

I have two children, age 1 and 2 (11 months apart) so parenting can be a challenge looking after both of them alone is virtually impossible.

My husband is helpful in every other way - with kids, housework etc but the episodes of anger often result in days/weeks of not talking. He's been through counselling as he recognised his behaviour was unreasonable but this didn't help.

I know the behaviour is wrong, especially around children. I worry there is no hope he'll change. If I was to leave him I wouldn't be able to keep our home, I work part time and we have a big mortgage. I don't want to uproot the kids from a good area/ decent schools.

I don't know what to do, feel so lost. I can't even look after the kids by myself.

Has anyone been through a similar situation?

I did want to read and run, because I'm going through something similar. Sadly I can't offer much help, but I'm sure someone will be along to offer help soon. At the end of the day you know this isn't right. As lots of people have been telling me, you only have one life. It would be a shame to waste it being unhappy.

@HGranger sorry to hear you're going through something similar. It's difficult, other people can say 'just leave' but I feel like I'd have a mental breakdown it's not an easy decision to make. I don't have any family support and paying an extortionate amount in childcare just so I can work part time.

You know what to do, you just don’t want to do it because you are clinging to the hope that there’s a different version of him waiting around the corner.

Good luck explaining the language your child will repeat to their nursery.

You know what to do, you just don’t want to it.

@MissMe0607 I know what you mean. I've posted a few times on here and been criticised for leaving my daughter in a bad situation. And I'm aware of that and yet it still isnt just as easy as packing a bag and leaving. For me we live close to his family. I also work part time and have nowhere I could stay close by, in commuting and childcare distance. And he was refusing to leave 'His home's so I was stuck desperately trying to find ways to make it work. He has just left for his parents today, so it might be that this is the end, but I have no idea where to go from here.