Help me get a grip

[Fairycake2]

I've been talking to someone from OLD for a few weeks now. We arranged to meet yesterday but late in the afternoon he changed the arrangements then cancelled completely a bit later. The reason he gave was completely genuine and I know to be true. However I've not heard from him since so I know I've been ghosted (he usually messages every day). I gave him the opportunity to say he didn't want to meet but he insisted he did. I really like him and am feeling really crappy about it today. Please help me get a grip! I know I need to forget and move on but why is it always the ones you like that turn out to be twatts?!

Hi OP, its shit isn't it. Its happened to me a few times. Please try to remember that despite thinking you liked him, he's actually a twat to have ghosted you. Very cowardly.
In future, I would suggest not talking for weeks. Meet sooner because then you can't get attached to the idea of someone before even meeting them.

Yes, it really is shit! And I know he's been a total coward. I've resisted so far but am so tempted to send another message. I know that makes me look very desperate though so I'm trying to stay strong!! I also know it won't be the last time it happens either so i really need to toughen up 😃

Dont send the message..... you'll kick yourself later !

Stay strong sweetheart it happens to absolutely everyone xxx

Happened to me, although he didn't have the decency to cancel just failed to turn up. His loss will he someone else's gain, and someone better will come along.

Don't send another message. In fact I would be tempted to block him so he can't re-appear later with a pathetic excuse (aka someone else didn't work out for him). This has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him.

How did you know his reason was true if you've never met him and you don't even know him? If he was that gutted about not being able to meet he would have made sure to rearrange something asap to make sure he didn't miss out on meeting up with you. Looks like he was just doing OLD for an ego boost. He's probably already in a relationship, sorry to say it OP. Block and move on would be my advice

Very true @wobblywinelover
He was probably just spinning me a line and I suspect he's met someone else but wanted to keep me in the background in case it doesn't work out. Feel much better about it all today, was just feeling a bit sorry for myself yesterday as hes the first person I've liked since my 'D'H walked out

Ahh OP he sounds pathetic anyway. You likes the idea of him, not him- you don't know anything about him and what you do know reflects badly. It's ok to feel disappointed that it didnt go the esy you'd have preferred-but he is no loss, you've not lost something you never even really had. Glad you're feeling a bit better about it today

Block him! You don't want him crawling back when his other options are empty because he knows you like him and thinks he can talk you round with a lie.

I've had a message to say he was sorry for messing me about but he didn't think he was ready for a relationship. I've taken that as code for I've met someone else!

Pleased you're feeling better about it today OP. Yes he probably has met someone else. OLD is so hard, you have to have the skin of a rhino it can be so soul destroying. Onwards and upwards though. They are naughty stringing women along though and it's still wrong what he's done

God, more lies. I wouldn't respond to him OP. Just block his number now in case he suddenly decides he is single again ready for a relationship.

I've taken that as code for I've met someone else!
Indeed, that is exactly what it is.
At least you know he's a fucking twat and you can move onwards and updwards.
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