Hello everyone,
So myself and partner are in an interracial relationship I am white and he is black. At first there were never any issues and he swept me off my feet. Made me feel amazing and so beautiful in every single way. However for the past 6 months he has become obsessed with talking about racism and black history. Let me make this clear I do not in any way condone the wrong doings that white people have done to black people. My partner knows this and I have never disrespected him or his race and infact are very understanding and respectful and have no problem in discussing his history but as I am a white women I feel like he finds ways to put me down.
He says things like ‘Your race dont understand or care and your race don’t have the body type I like and every man knows that black women have the thickest and curviest body types or white women shouldn’t date black men as they don’t respect their culture or history and only date them for their physical appearance’.
I cannot help but feel like these views do not match the views of a man who is with a white woman because quite frankly why are you dating a white women with these internal thoughts or views? We were trying for a baby for a long time and he always compared my fertility to those of other races saying they must be so fertile and don’t have these problems getting pregnant, this really hurt me as it was destroying me that we couldn’t conceive.
Gradually I am feeling less and less loved and have become hating myself although I know I haven’t done anything wrong.
Has anyone else experienced this or could just give me their honest advice on how to handle this situation?
Thank you in advance