If your dc don't see their dad due to abuse, do they have any contact at all and if so, what?

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My dds are not seeing their dad due to abuse. I'm waiting for a court date to decide what happens next but have been asked to consider what type of contact would be ok. Does anyone have any experience of this and what did you decide?

Ds had supervised contact for a while, which he hated.

Court order now says his father can write once a month plus birthday and Christmas, which i was happy for as DS could decide if and when he wanted to read the letters, order was made in 2010, he's written once.

Dds have emailed him but have had no response. Email seemed to be the way to go but he's not bothered.

NarwhalsNarwhals did your child write to him at all? How old are they?

Messenger and voice calls only .
Child is 10

He's 15, he sent his father a couple of cards when he was small but got no response so hasn't written in a long time. DS hasn't even mentioned him in years. He doesn't remember the abuse so I do worry he'll have questions one day but until then I think its actually better that neither of them are interested in keeping in touch.

Well, dd emailed him several days ago and he's not replied.

My ex doesn’t see the kids we have but that’s through his own choice. The kids ask to see him but he is the one that doesn’t want to.

Wtf is wrong with these men?! I'll never understand how a parent can not bother with their child.

It’s horrible isn’t it, my 6 year old son asked me to buy him a new dad because all his friends have one

Oh lord, what on earth can you say to that. Poor lad. My ds doesn't have a dad either, he didn't really realise until he was at nursery. He has no male role models. I worry.