Exhausted

[namechangeryadayada]

I've name changed for this as well my new name suggests.

I've just had a massive fight with my husband, for some context.

I'm six months pregnant complicated pregnancy and have two dc 4 and 6.

We both work full time, earn the same and have very high pressured jobs.

Here is where my issue is, I do all of the child drop offs and pick ups, I do all of the food shopping and all of the housework. Occasionally he will empty a dishwasher but not often. He has every Saturday off 12-7 to play football and have a few beers.

This week I've had a killer cold, the kids have been sick, we've ran out of everything, this morning I went for a lie down because I'm really feeling crap, he came to wake me up and I asked if downstairs was still they same. He went crazy telling me I didn't ask him to do anything and I am just a martyr properly screaming at me.

I never bring up anything and I actually don't nag, I just burst into tears because I'm exhausted have two kids to look after and now need to clean the house whilst he's out enjoying himseflf.

Don't really know why I'm posting but I'm sat here in tears with no one to talk to.

He's a selfish lazy arsehole op

Can you pack a bag and take yourself off to a hotel, friends etc on your own. Tell him you'll be home Sunday evening. Let him go without his hobby. Leave him a list of what needs to be done this weekend.

During your weekend make a list of all jobs and split into two, a list for you and a list for him. Plus you get every Saturday to yourself between 12 and 7.

He's right in one respect tho, you are being a martyr

@TheReef

Thanks for your reply.

Unfortunately not. I've no friends or family near by I could go to a hotel but I honestly don't think I have the energy to pack a bag and take the kids.

I probably am a martyr, but I know if I don't do it then it won't get done and ultimately I can't send dc to school and nursery in dirty clothes.

I've not had my hair done in over a year (first world problems I know) because I've not as much as had a few hours off.

Please don’t cry. Get angry and ask him why he can function in a high earning job but seems unable to tidy up or parent appropriately.

Remember that you are not his servant and that he has to parent equally his children, plus do fifty percent of the adult jobs around the house. If he can’t do that, there is no point in him being there.

Plus, shouting at his wife when she is ill? It’ a completely unacceptable behaviour and I would tell him that I would not tolerate that again either.

I honestly don't think I have the energy to pack a bag and take the kids.

Leave the children with him. He's their father and a fully functioning adult, wtf can't he look after them for the weekend?

You need some rest op. If he's not going to give it to you, take it for yourself