Is this social anxiety

[Itsallpointless]

I hope someone can help with my thoughts here.

I attend meetup groups, in the past I have also tried other friendship groups. My problem is, though I chat to everyone (I think I'm pretty sociable) I have only made one friend that I communicate with outside of the groups. I see others that are clearly communicating/becoming friends, but it appears that I'm not one of the populars. It's getting to the point that I don't want to go along to events, as I feel nobody really likes me. I can see though, that this is a pattern that keeps repeating itself, so I'm sure it's me!

I have very low self esteem, though I doubt that comes across to be honest, and I'm sure I appear confident, I just want to know what I'm doing 'wrong'. I don't hanker after people, and don't come across as desperate for friendship, so that wouldn't put people off me (I don't think) I'm just really struggling with these constant feelings of inadequacy and not feeling good enough.

Have you actually asked anyone to meet outside the group, or suggested swopping numbers etc? . Or are you waiting til they ask you? By the sound of it, it's the latter.

They don't ask you so you've decided they don't like you. BUT it's entirely possible they think you don't like them because you haven't taken that step either.

If you're chatty, then they may assume you're the confident one and presume you're the type of person that would ask if you wanted to move towards friendships outside the group.

Bite the bullet and ask. It can't e worse than feeling how you do at the moment. Everyone is there to make friends, but someone has to take that first step - why can't it be you?