Hello. I wondered if anyone had any advice or experienced anything similar. My sister is difficult. She has been as long as I can remember. There has always been a drama. I used to drop everything and go to her to help. My fiance used to say "do you think she'd do that for you?" He took his life and she pretty much left me to it. She's since told me it made me more independent.
I turned 40 last year. My siblings organised a night in a hotel, a meal and a show. It was lovely but they complained about the meal and got refunds. I just enjoyed it for what it was.
My sister is turning 40. I'd suggested renting a holiday home near the sea and getting a cake. My brother actually shouted me down saying she won't want that. I didn't know he'd been talking to her husband and he had said she wouldn't like that. My brother has booked a tree house. I've gone along with it to keep the peace. He's also saying "she's said she doesn't want presents just money". He already knows we have booked the tree house.
Now she's had a row with my mum and told everyone to cancel whatever is planned. She argued with mum about not doing what she wanted for her birthday (she wanted Centre Parcs but it's too expensive). She's bought up irrelevant things from the past.
Now she's messaged saying she doesn't know why things are cancelled and that she's been crying and feels that no one likes her. She said she just wants to spend her birthday with her family. It feels manipulative to me. The tree house is still on but my mum did cancel a night out the week after.
I guess I feel obliged as she helped organise my birthday but I'm honestly so sick of it. She's ruined so many family get togethers then blames everyone else.