Signs they’d become absent parents

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Just that really, whether the father or mother were there any signs that they’d become absent parents (or anything less than EOW/some consistency) and if so what were they?

You can leave a relationship for any reason.

I don’t understand the question - most people don’t get married to or have children with people they think will become absent parents, so no, I cannot say there were any signs as such. I would say on balance that if a parent doesn’t pull their weight and the other parent does everything, then the likelihood is that the parent doing everything will by default become the resident parent but still does not mean the parent doing not much will become an absent parent.
Not sure if that makes sense.

@KTJean, sorry I probably wasn’t clear, I mean signs after a split. i.e. seeing children when they have nothing better to do, having parents or new partners looking after children. Although I suppose during a relationship a general disinterest in the children could be a sign.

My DDs dad was very much hands on-but only if I facilitated it. And then one day he stopped...just out of the blue. That was many years ago now and he still hasn’t seen her despite our attempts.