Am I being hard on DP and his selfish ways?

[GirlInLeather]

Just got back from the shop. Me, DP and DS1 got our dinner from the chippy whilst DS2 got some super noodles from the corner shop.

So we got home, there were no clean plates (hectic past few days so didnt do the washing up last night. DP came in, washed HIMSELF a plate and then went over to the chippy bag, fished his out and served it up and then went into the living room with his dinner leaving mine and DS1s chippy food on the kitchen counter still in the bag.

I then had to wash 3 more plates, cook ds2s super noodles and then serve up mine and the kids dinner.

People say I should just tell DP what to do etc but surely in circumstances like this its bloody common sense not to just sort your own out and then leave everyone elses in the bags??? Or am I being too hard on him?

I wouldn't be happy. Lazy arse. You're not being hard, he's being selfish. Does he not think children needed plates, drinks etc?

YANBU

but get a dishwasher anyway

men don't think!

What did he say when you asked him why he'd only done his own?

i would wnat to stick a fork in the side of his head if he were mine.

nonono, this is the ultimate in selfish behaviour.

stop it now

Dp said he would have eaten straight out of the paper.

Plates? Chippies get eaten out of the paper in this house!

But no, YANBU.

You're not being too hard on him but you are expecting him to think for himself NOT about himself.

Thinking about others doesnt come naturally to most men. It's not really what they were designed for.

Our exectations/hopes are that they should have the same amount of innitiative, ability, perception etc as a woman.

Well, that's not gonna happen!

It's not that long ago that all they had to do was hunt dinosaurs, club dinosaurs and drag dinosaurs back to suburban cave for us to cook.

I dont think they mean to be insensitive lazy and selfish, they just need a lot of 'encouragement' not to be.

Of course, you also have to make it appear that it was THEIR idea to be 'decent' people and do their share and tell them that they are AMAZING because they had the foresight to wash up without being asked.

Mmmme, might just be easier to trade him in for a Filipino maid and get a rampant rabbit!