Holidays

[Honestface78]

Does it matter if child's dad wants to take child on a 10 day holiday with a girlfriend, without introducing them beforehand?

Are you saying the child hasn't been introduced to the girlfriend? Yes it does matter and it should be out of courtesy/respect for both the child, other parent of the child and the girlfriend.

Ideally they should get to know each other quite a while before the holiday happens. You can't just lump two people together for 10 days and expect them to get on.

In what context are you asking? Are you the dad, the mum or the girlfriend?

If I was the girlfriend, I wouldn't be happy and would want to get to know the child first.

If I was the child's mum, I would want to be respectfully informed of the situation. The relationship between the dad and the new girlfriend would be none of my business, but the safeguarding and wellbeing of my child is the priority.

If I was the child, I wouldn't be happy to go on holiday with daddy's new girlfriend having never met her!

Yes of course it matters.

Nobody wants to go on holiday with a stranger. Why do you ask? Which part of the puzzle are you?

No it's not ok but it's sound like a typical Disney dad only giving a shit about his own needs and not that of his child's (who should be no 1 prority) or his gfs

I am the mum, attempting to be as reasonable as I possibly can.

I have no issue with the actual holiday abroad, at some point I imagine myself doing the same.

I have no issue that he has a girlfriend either, good luck to her

Even combining the two, not an issue...

...in time. It has been four months so far and it is a long distant relationship.

I am happy for them to meet at some point but I believe she should come to my daughter.

If it means anything, she is under 5.

I don't think this is very sensible at all. I wouldn't be happy. he should be introducing her gradually, not forcing them together for 10 solid days. I'm surprised this woman has agreed to it which then throws up questions about what she must be like.

I find this so frustrating! Why are some men incapable of being parents to their children without needing to involve whichever female they are currently shagging!
Dds father did this last year, January booked for summer holiday with dd, his other dd, new gf and gfs 2 girls, (only been together 4 months) by feb they had split up, holiday was then just dd, her sister and dad, by March he had a new gf, told dd new gf would be coming on the holiday with her 3 kids, dd said she didn't feel comfy so he told her she would have to miss out then because his gf was already invited. Needless to say relationship broke downs shortly after and she hasn't spoken to him for nearly a year.
It doesn't take long for them to realise they are not a priority.

4 months and a long distance relationship? No way at all.

With my ex, I said at least 10 - 12 months before his new GF being introduced, and even then it was gradual. You need to ensure it’s a serious relationship, not a short term thing and your child ends up being introduced to yet another on daddies gfs