Partner is always negative?

[shakiwulub9]

If I tell him some good news (such as an interview for promotion at work, excitement within the family eg: pregnancies/engagements etc, or just tell him about some good things I've been up to with my day) he will never respond enthusiastically or encouragingly - he seems disinterested at the best of times to such news'.

He is reluctant to spend time with my family for example if he is invited to a roast dinner/celebratory gathering.

When I ask him why he is miserable he blames his job and issues going on within his family, but he has been providing these answers for over 1 year now. It is really wearing me down. Whenever I tell him how it's making me feel it is like he will try to twist it to make it out as if it's ME who has a problem.

I don't know what to do. I love him, but in all honesty I'm not enjoying is company. He has been negative for longer periods than he has been positive. I'm sick of it, and sick of being made to feel like it's wrong for me to be offended by his attitudes!

What is his relationship to you. Are you single or married?

That's not a good start for a year. Take it from someone who has experienced the same, it won't get better and it'll end up with either you going to family things alone or not at all or your family realising he doesn't want to spend any time with them and it'll end up very uncomfortable. It can cause all sorts of problems. He's already dragging you down so you say so get out now before it's difficult as you will feel low. It's no fun living someone who is miserable all the time. A mood sucker. What's the point?

He will bring you down forever. And it'll be your fault according to him.

It's just the way he is.

Is that what you want?

What are you getting out of this relationship now?.

Such men also do not change. Such behaviours as well are often deeply ingrained. I would look into ending the relationship.

Do you live together?

My ex was like this, negative about everything. That is why he is now my ex! Tried it for 10 years, he just brought me down with his negativity. They don't change, so I would get out now.

My ex was also like this. Miserable, negative and unenthusiastic about anything. Its wears you down and will ultimately make you miserable. He won't change.

Joy sponge. My last ex was one of these. They cannot see how miserable they are and blame it on everyone else. Always an excuse. Never a good word about anyone or anything. Take the huff if you don't agree with their bitchiness. It comes from jealousy.
He couldn't believe I would dump him over a inappropriate bitchy comment he made ripping the piss out of a sad situation we were watching on the news one night.
Its too draining.
Get rid of yours before it gives you a stiff neck. My night time tooth grinding stopped then. Go figure.

He will never change.

He will bring you down eventually when you get tired of being extra jolly to compensate and trying to make him see the positive side of things.

This won't change. Do you want to spend the rest of your life like this?

My stbexh is like this hence the ex bit! I have it 12 years but he never changed. Am now with a glass half full person and it's so refreshing! Get out now before he drags you to his level

Vortex of misery. Get rid. Get happy. Better to be alone than badly accompanied (read that on here the other day and it's my new favourite phrase)

Nothing like a sourpus to grind you down. This is who he is and he won't change. Move on and put it down to experience. Go before you get pregnant and he makes your kids miserable too.