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Is this the script ?

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Reb4evaaa · 29/01/2020 17:38

He left me after ten years for another woman, said he was in love with her, not with me and how since our eldest I stopped making an effort in relationship or with myself (appearance, plus not wanting to go out/do stuff), we stopped communicating etc. I thought it was just normal life after a baby and would get better, he apparently felt this way a while yet didn’t talk to me about it and said it got to the point where his feelings just went/he didn’t miss me when I wasn’t there etc and how he couldn’t carry on living the rest of his life like that. He had only been getting it on with the OW like 2 weeks before leaving and I think he only left at that point due to her telling her HB and him threatening to tell.

Is this the script ? PS he is in his 40’s

OP posts:
Reb4evaaa · 29/01/2020 18:43

Anyone?

OP posts:
Groovinpeanut · 29/01/2020 18:48

Yes, he's working his way through the script. Good thing is you know the script too!
Forewarned and forearmed you know what's coming next.

Thingsdogetbetter · 29/01/2020 18:48

Unfortunately, yeap! Did he add the bonus lines of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" or "we were never compatible anyway"?

MikeAlphaMike · 29/01/2020 18:49

Blaming you when it is his fault.
Sorry you are going through.

MMmomDD · 29/01/2020 20:11

Why does it matter if it’s the script?
Point is - the relationship changed after baby. He may have been unhappy about it and instead of mentioning it, he gave up.
You may have noticed it but thought it’s normal and would change eventually.
It’s not about who is to blame.
Seems he wasn’t prepared for the change having baby brings to a relationship and ran away to another life.
He may be in his 40s but is clearly immature.

Sorry about it. It will get better.

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