So, I'll try and keep this brief! But a bit of background, I've had post natal mental health issues and struggled with motherhood. DD is now 2. She is going through a phase where she prefers daddy and nanny to me. She doesn't want to come home with me after I pick her up from mother in laws and it's getting to the point where i dread picking her up! She is fine once we are home though and is quite loving to me when it's just us.
So, on Monday I picked DD up as usual, she didn't want to put her shoes and coat on and come home with me. MIL and SIL both said i was too submissive and needed to be more assertive with her or she would be a nightmare when older. I was sleep deprived and upset, it felt like they were cornering me and nit picking. Anyway, we tried to get DD in my car. She screamed and arched her back...wouldn't go in. MIL insisted DD stay at her house overnight. I drove away in tears, feeling like a failure as a mother and that MIL and SIL were cruel to me. I rang my mum and ranted about them, that i was sick of them and wanted to leave DP ( we are going though a bad patch were we argue constantly and have been for a while). The next day, MIL dropped DD off at my mums. It was meant to be a brief exchange and after a good nights sleep I had begged my mum not to say anything to MIL. But she did. She had a huge go at her, saying she was controlling, her family was ruining my life, I wanted to leave DP and I hated SIL. I am so upset about this and so angry with my mum for not keeping it to herself. I told my mum those things in confidence when I was upset and I hoped they'd never been repeated. DP is so upset with me and asked when he should leave, MIL is so off with me and says our family can never be friends and I have to go to SIL birthday at the weekend and no doubt everyone will have been told and will ignore me. I'm already trying to mend things but it feels pointless. I don't want DP to leave as i hope we can sort things out. Any advice?