Can someone please tell me what to do

[Justaman22]

Hi everyone
About 14 months my spouse and I decided to purchase a house in France to go and live there. To purchase this house I had (sadly) moved to France and my spouse was supposed to move when our daughter was living home in the UK. The difficulty I am faced now is after living 24 years of life in the UK and my children my spouse seems to be reluctant to move here the dates are constantly changing and most recently she told me she does know what she want anymore. I keep asking what is happening but she is telling me I am too pushy. I am very lost and don't know waht to think. I sense that her telling she doesn't know waht she want is a way to say I don't want to be with you? Thank you

How long have you been over in France without her?

I'm sorry but it sounds like she has realised she likes her own space more than being married.

I mean, I could be wrong, perhaps there are lots of loose ends to tie up. Or she just doesn't want to leave family in the UK. Or the kids are having second thoughts.

But either way, it sounds as if she needs space to decide/sort things. I'd give it a limit (for yourself). And if by that point she hasn't come over, you may have to have the 'I think we should go our separate ways' talk.

Thanks I told her this already but it seems she doesn't know I have offered to come to the UK, but she doesn't seem to be keen, I really feel I have made huge sacrifice and commitment for us.

Moving to France is exciting and glamorous as an idea in the future. When it is like, pack you are going march 2nd, it is scary. I can see that. I used to say i would retire to spain. Nowi dont think so.

But yes it is late in the day for this realisation to strike.

It is not necessarily about you. But is she wants to stay in the uk more than she wants to leave to be with you then it leaves you in the same place.

Go in gently. Ask her softly if she has changedher mind. You will get her real feelings out of her quicker if you act like whatever she says that is an outcome you can accept.

Thank you so much for your comment I do love her very much and I really hope we get reunited soon.