And he doesn't know that I know. Yet.
I met a 'lovely' guy a few months ago and we were having a wonderful time. Until yesterday. We went out the night before and stayed at his apartment while he was at work. That's when I found the evidence.
I noticed that someone wearing pink lipstick had kissed his bathroom mirror, in a way that you can only see at a certain angle, he obviously hadn't wiped it off properly.
The purple envelope he collected from the mailbox (he thought I didn't notice and hid it under a newspaper) was a card from his ex saying 'I miss you'.
There are long blonde hairs in the carpet/on the sofa that I maybe wouldn't have otherwise noticed.
There is a toddler's bottle in his dishwasher (my kids are older, his 'ex' has 3 young kids).
On the back of a shopping list he has written '(his initials) loves (her initials) forever' -he's 29 FFS!! I know this is recent cos he has written her his new mobile number and signed it 'chickenpie', her nickname for him!!!!
There was a receipt in the kitchen drawer indicating he was in the city where she lives last weekend (he said he was working).
And now for the best one..... I went into the local shop with him and the checkout girl who obviously knows him glared at me, then asked him where the kids were! My kids have never been to that shop.
This man, I am now sure, is with her tonight. He says he is staying with 'a friend' I kept very calm, I haven't said a word to him. Yet. I have no idea how I have managed it. I want to rip his head off. My 10 year old DD sent him an email earlier inviting him to her birthday party .
So, how should I play this? I feel terrible for the other woman too, as I think she is completely oblivious to his deceit. Oh, and her poor kids too. I thought maybe I was falling in love with him and then this happens