Hello! This is a bit of a long winded one, so let me apologise in advance. So…I came out of a 7-year relationship last year, it was a tough break up. He pretty much done a midnight flit and I have not heard a word from him since. To this day I’m not even sure what the issue was. However, now I’m dating this new guy. We met about 6 months ago and he is fantastic. He is sweet, kind, caring, texts me every day etc…The issue is…it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.
When we first met I admit I slept with him pretty quick as that’s all I was really looking for at the time. We met online therefore the usual questions were asked “what is it your looking for” blah blah blah. He had told me at the time that he was “tired of the single life and wanted the one person who was loyal” So at first we would meet up once a week or once a fortnight for sex and he would stay over. Nothing major, I was playing it cool, casual, aloof some might say! But of course, fast forward a few months and I’ve only gone and fell head over heels for him.
Now I don’t know what I’m doing. Sometimes I think he feels the same as he will say things like “I miss you” or “I’m so excited to see you this weekend”. He has also taken me away for the weekend a couple of times. But he has never approached the subject with me. The closest we got was at the beginning and he asked to not to sleep with other people it we were meeting up for sex. Then other times I think he just sees us as casual sex buddies as he has not once mentioned meeting his family, he point blank refuses to come to my house if my family are in. In addition, all our “dates” are just us sitting in the house, we haven’t ever been out for dinner or drinks. I’m terrified to bring it up to him as I’m scared I wont like the answer, then if it transpires it is only casual for him then that will ruin everything as I wouldn’t be able to keep seeing him and at the same time I need to know as I want more.
My last relationship was so intense, everything seems to happen so quick, whereas now I am 6 months in and don’t know what the score is. Does anyone have any similar experiences and perhaps have any advise on how to move forward? Or am I just being a paranoid wreck because let’s face it, its only been 6 months? ha! Also does this sound like a casual relationship? I’ve never experienced one before, I feel like I’m out of the loop. Thanks for listening.