Has anyone moved towns after divorce? Just for a new start!

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If so, how was that?
I feel a little bit crazy for wanting to do it. It's not like I'm newly seperated (still not divorced) as it's been 10 years in may! Wow! Where has that time gone?!!
My dd's were young and I went back to uni to gain a qualification to enable me to be financially stable on my own. I have struggled over the years to keep the house and keep up mortgage payments alone.
Always wanted a fresh start but never financially able to because of arrears etc. All sorted now. I don't have anything keeping me where I live. My dd's are getting older. I'm hoping a mortgage company will allow it. I'm thinking about moving out of area. I will commute for work and be able to drop my dd's to school so I don't have to change their school.
It's a big move isn't it? New home, new area, new neighbours and the unknown.
Would like to hear of your stories. Hopefully positive ones.

It's not something I've done personally but you've given some great reasons to do it. If there's nothing keeping you where you are then I'd say why not. Sounds like you wouldn't be moving a million miles away either so you'll still be close enough to see old friends / neighbours. Maybe write yourself a pros and cons list

Yes. I did. It'n only 5 miles from my previous home but I love the feeling of having a new beginning. My new house is all mine, me neighbours only know me as a single woman etc. We have settled in totally and I love it.

I did, no dc tho

I moved from Gloucestershire to Hampshire. I managed to get a different role within my company that was in Hampshire, took it (even though I wasn't that fussed with the job), and moved. Beat thing I did. It stopped my ex knowing my every move and people I worked with just knew me as single, not married

45Fairycake2 thankyou :)
Yes, lots of pro's. The only con is probably more travelling.
49HumousWhereTheHeartIs thankyou :)
That's good to hear, glad you are happy. I am really looking for a fresh start and a finalised divorce, mortgage alone (hoping I can get one alone) and new friends/neighbours. Unfortunately I don't have any close friends here either.

52TheReef thankyou :) aww good, so good to hear. That's e exactly what I'm looking for. No past reminders/memories. I live in a small town where I grew up, went to school, married (he has moved on living close by). Nothing keeping us here. My dd's don't see their dad often (every other Sunday if he doesn't cancel). Only the school here, so will commute. It's about 20 miles but will pass through for work on some days. Extra driving on others.
Its a bit scary though, I guess, on my own.

Yes, I did - out of London where my career was back to the town I was born in, for family support with child care which has been great.
Making new friends - has been much easier out of London but I still have the perennial single parent problem that when we want to socialise (weekends) is when other families are having family time.
It's amazing that you won't have to change your children's school, what is the impact going to be on their socialising at weekends though? You may spend a lot if time driving!
A fresh home the way you want it will be lovely - as for new neighbours, mine are great but I think it's best not to be too friendly with neighbours and keep some distance

I did! Best thing ever! Not far, but fresh. DC stayed at same schools, but made sure they could get buses and trains, esp important as they get older and more independent. I do tend to do more of the drop off pick ups though when we swap care days.

04changedtempforprivacy thankyou :) glad that has worked for you and you have made new friends and closer to family. I'm more for making new friends than neighbours but mostly a new start away from old memories. Just nice to know you have decent neighbours I guess. My dd's have struggled with the transition to comprehensive and alot of their friends do not do much on weekends so we tend to spend time together on weekends doing something. They go to a couple of clubs during the week that I will still want them to go to. They can invite friends over if they wanted also as they do make plans from time to time. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a mortgage lender to accept.
1245andfine thankyou :) glad it's worked for you. I feel I will need to travel a little more too (pick ups) but I'm hoping all worth it.