How do you respond to this?

[mokapot]

My partner told me today she thinks I’m causing her depression.
She says that I destroy any moment of happiness she has:l. For context, she and I were having banter over messages as she’s away at the moment and I said something which she perceived as a taunt.
And then she said that I was causing her depression.
That’s knocked me tonight: I didn’t respond but have been trying to understand that in that case we shouldn’t be together

we do live together. shes been away for work and shall be back this week. i shall have a chat with her when shes back

" stupid" was not in inverted commas

Actually that comment from her would really piss me off. To accuse some one of causing your depressing means that you better back that accusation up.

She’s basically saying your making her seriously ill and negatively effecting her life.

It’s either true so you really need to look in to yourself And leave her so she can find peace. Are you making her depressed? Honestly?

Or she massively over reacted and threw some thing huge at you to get you to shut the fuck up - coincidentally after she was reminded of her calling you stupid.

I’d be wanting to leave if some one was accusing me of causing their depression for the past few years... I’d be wondering if I’d been living a complete lie.

Wrong assumption from me about you being a man, but you can see from what some other pp have said, that you would have had different responses if it was clear you were a woman.

No patience and a double standard for men on here.

To be honest, I think that your comment about her needing to talk to people on her own intellectual level instead of 'stupid' people like yourself was a passive-aggressive dig, and unnecessarily bringing up a past disagreement. There is also the underlying implication that the two of you are unsuited to each other.
I can see exactly why it would have knocked all the happiness out of her day.

I would've take your comment as self deprecating, it's like something I would say and I'd mean it as a joke at my own expense- also you were encouraging her to keep a social network, which is a good thing.

I suppose if someone's in a bad mood, it can be easy to misinterpret texts.