Hand hold. I've done it.

[sirmione16]

Just ended it. Some may have seen my thread last year... I had an 8 week old, and 5 weeks before due to get married found he was cheating. I stayed and tried to make this work, but I'm not happy so had decided to tell him and get things going. Our baby turned one the other day. I'm so sad. We were literally the "perfect" couple for over 5 years. I would've laid my life down on the statement he'd never do anything like that never mind the timing. He's been great after it all, too. And has really tried. And has been so understanding. But I just don't love him any more. I feel like I'm grieving the person he used to be and the relationship I had.

To get to this stage with feelings like that, you’re making the right call. It won’t be easy but you’ll be happy again soon. Respect to you.

I remember you sirmione. He was making plans to cheat during your hen-do. You tried and gave it your all. I know it is so wrenching to make the final break. I admire your clarity and courage and wish you the very best.

Congratulations on being so brave. It’s not easy to leave when they’ve been trying & you have kids,but it’s the right thing to do if you’re not happy.

It’ll be hard, but you can get through it 🌷

Big hugs for you, this must have been ridiculously hard for you, but he effectively killed your relationship and the love you felt for him. You’ve been incredibly strong, good luck with your future.

I’m glad you had some good years together. I’m so sorry he ruined the relationship. Best wishes as you start the next part of your life.

Well done! A big hand hold from me! 💐

Wow. You're really strong and I admire you. Being able to realise that something isn't the fantasy life you thought is a pretty special quality. Breaking up is rotten and sad even though you know it's the right thing to do. At times you will doubt yourself. Don't. You will come out the other side and you and your dc will be happier than you would otherwise have been. I wish I had left earlier. I wish you all the best. Sending you a big hug. X

Very brave, but the right thing without a shadow of a doubt OP, once you have grieved you have bought your life back, one that places your self esteem as a priority and opens up all sorts of options to be happy in the future. He was not who you thought he was - Happy birthday to your little one

OP congratulations in finding the strength to leave ... you will be happy again..

Thank you so much for your replies. Yes to the PP, he was trying to meet up her whilst I was away on my hen do. It's laughable if it wasnt so bloody hurtful. I think it's the timing of everything he did that I can't get past. Thank you again, I've started looking into renting my own place as wouldn't be able to afford to buy on my own unfortunately. I actually feel okay today weirdly! He took it very well, said he'd expected it and apologised over and over. Tears were shed but were on good terms. Now to get things sorted. Is it weird I'm half excited?

Screenshotting some replies because I know when this all comes out to family and friends they may not be as understanding or supportive. Very "old school", children should have the nuclear family type.

Not at all weird, I think I’ll be the same once I find the strength to cut the final tie.

You have a new life ahead of you, there will be some bumps but it’ll be worth it. Well done

You can't love someone you don't trust, and cheating is the biggest betrayal of that trust. So many stupid men/women don't realise this simple fact.

Wow, that takes a lot of strength. Well done. I don't think it's weird to be a little bit excited. I can only assume you have been very unhappy to get to this point and you are looking forward to a better future. Wishing you all the happiness you deserve