I'm jealous of everyone and everything. Why?

[Jealo]

I've never been one to compare my life to others, I've always got on with my own life/plans etc and let other people get in with theirs.

I have never known the feeling of wanting what someone else has until very recently.

All of a sudden, I am jealous of everyone and everything. Everyones lives seem better than mine, everyone is slimmer than me, working out more than me, managing their time better than me, their kids all seem better behaved, they have more fun. They have better partners.

I am not married but have children and am coming to terms with the probability that DP and I will never marry. Our relationship is failing. I feel like I'm grieving.

My parents are unreliable and irresponsible, everyone else's seem to be helping them, we don't have a lot of money at present, everyone else seems to.

I feel like everyone elses lives are moving forward whilst mine feels very stuck.

What is the crux of this jealousy? What is causing it? I've been unhappy with my life in the past but it has never caused such intense envy.

Having never been too bothered about marriage, I am also desperate to marry. To be Mrs X, to be someone's wife and to have a husband. To feel like I belong to a team, to a united family. I am at a point where I can't even go to weddings anymore.

Breathe!

What's missing OP?

What do you do for yourself? You sound very overwhelmed!!!

Comparing yourself to others (which we all bloody do) is shit and steals your own achievements and personal experiences.

What could fix it? One small fix for now that's achievable?

You are grieving.

Its about loss and not wanting to lose.

Be kind to yourself

I think sometimes envy is triggered by our own sense of not living up to our potential.
Frustration too for example being envious of a slimmer woman. They may spend hours at the gym to acheive that. Its our own frustration of not having the dedication/ discipline/ time or money.
We compare and then feel a failure.
I know it sounds cringey but if you feel a pang of envy towards someone for something i.e fab job etc. Turn it around and look to them as an inspiration as in they have worked/ studied hard for that, what can I do to get to that point. Comparing yourself is a breeding ground for envy. There will always be someone slimmer/ prettier etc. But they may health problems/ a cheating spouse etc.
Focus on your wonderful points instead 💐

I'm sorry about the relationship stuff, hope you find a way through. The weight thing I can help with, use your feelings as inspiration, not self loathing. Make the changes. You won't be perfect at it, who is, but once you see results you'll feel so empowered and other changes might follow.

Don’t overwhelm yourself with other people’s lives, (they probably aren’t that great in reality!)

Take a break from SM and concentrate on loving yourself!

Lol. You have some serious rose tinted glasses on regarding other people's lives. Some people's lives are idyllic. Some women have wonderful relationships and marriages........some. The rest, however, aren't about to get a megaphone in the middle of a busy straight and declare what they yearn for, what's gone wrong in their lives. I'm slim, but you should see some of the blistering eczema I've had to battle through in the past, and I do mean 'blistering' literally. Would you trade places with me? When me and my partner are out, we hold hands, we are affectionate. If only people knew.

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