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[McGuire]

A woman who my husband had an affair with many years ago has friended him on Facebook and he has accepted. As far as I know there is no other contact although he did give her his telephone number. She messages - happy birthday and he responds. Also they exchange news of what is going on bin their lives. I am very uncomfortable about this and he thinks I am being totally unreasonable. Am I?

On which ground does he feel you are unreasonable (unless he is minimising what he has done)? Are you sure they weren’t in contact all along?
You are not unreasonable at all.

Absolutely unacceptable behaviour on his part.

I'd have his disrespectful ARSE out the door tonight...

It seems unanimous but NO OP you are not BU. He's a prick and it's hugely disrespectful and unnecessary. They aren't long lost pals it was an affair for gods sake.

I'd ask him to bloody leave.

Making out this is you being unreasonable is a form of gaslighting really.

How disrespectful of him I would expect him to block her and go no contact with her

He cannot possibly look you in the eye and genuinely believe this is ok?!

What a hurtful, cruel and entitled attitude he has.

I couldn't be with someone who had been so utterly disrespectful when given a second chance after the original affair.

You poor thing, has he really got you believing you might be unreasonable in thinking his behaviour is ridiculous?!

Totally unacceptable on every level, whether ot was 2 months ago or 20 years, it makes no difference. I wouldn't tolerate this at all, sorry OP