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Can you ever move on from cheating?

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Doaha · 27/01/2020 14:07

My DH cheated on me back in July on a night out. He had a one night stand with a woman, came home and told me about it straight away. In the end I forgave him, because we have a family and because I could see that he was sorry and part of it was also because he was honest with me.

However I still can't really get over it, the thoughts of him with her come into my head atleast once a day and it makes me feel sick to my stomach. I find myself getting angry at him about it atleast once a week and I bring it back up. I'm trying not to because I know I can't keep punishing him but I just can't help it.

My question is, does it ever go away? Can you ever stay together happily and really get over it? He went out on a night out over Christmas (first one since) and I sat at home worrying the majority of the time he was out, and I fucking hated it. That's not me, I'm not a paronoid person normally. He even sent me his location at one point and I rang to ask him why he did it and he said it was because he knew I'd be worried.. That's not right, I understand why he did it but it made me feel so bloody weird.

Has anyone ever been able to really put it behind them? Or am I completely wasting my time here?

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Doaha · 29/01/2020 13:56

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Thank you, I'll have a look for that book.

I suppose it makes it easier in the sense that he really is trying to make amends and he is genuinely sorry, it's just so hard for me to understand. It's like he's a different person. I still love him and I don't want to not be a family and raise our kids together. But nothing feels the same, sex is different and I don't want it half as much. I'll keep trying, but part of me does feel like it's not going to get better, and that just makes me very sad.

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