Treated badly,over it now,ignoring him but he doesn't like it.

[goldenstarred]

What's happening?
I do not give s shit about him anymore. He used me as a filler in girlfriend and an ego stroker and then once he found a girlfriend , moved away from contact etc .
I was hurt, annoyed with myself And him but after months, I can see exactly what he is like and I'm disinterested in him as a man not to mind anything else.
I've moved on with my life. I'm busy and enjoying lovely new experiences and adventures. He likes to give me a running commentary on his relationship each day. I glaze over.
The more I ignore, the more he tries to engage me in nonsense conversation and then I get more irritated.
He has now started to try to organise stuff for us to do together. He is giving me a rash. What is he bloody well up to?
If I am
To be a cynic I would say he is missing his little ego boost and idiot who had faith in his interest in me.

Block him.

Why are you even reading messages from him?

As @walnut days. Block

*says

You've got to cut this guy off. The entitlement to waffle on at you about his own issues, and most likely trying to use you as a backup for whenever his chosen target is at risk of slipping off her pedestal... bleurgh. Screw that. Why is he entitled to your time?

So why are you still with him? Stop playing games and get him out of your life.

Do you physically see him much? Or is this all over text? Agreed with above block him!

You're still communicating/accepting messages from him, so you are clearly getting something from this. Any reasonable person would have completely cut him off ages ago. Why haven't you?

Why engage at all ?
Is he a colleague ?
Just stop

Are you colleagues? How and why is he organising stuff to do together?

Why are you being so passive and allowing him any head space?

You obviously care more than you say.

What do you think is going to happen here?

Just block him and cut him out of your life once and for all. You're not a bystander here. You have pretty fail safe options.

I've moved on with my life.

Really? Just block him then.

Stop engaging.

Sorry I should have said that we work
Together. That's why it's hard

Block him?

Or tell him to fuck off?

Every time you engage with him he is getting a ego boost. Do u have to have direct contact with him in work. Simply say no every time he try's to make plans.

Walking away is an option, surely you know you don't have to stay and listen to him.

Then @Glitterb's option 2 is your answer.

"You're not the person I thought you were, and the person that you are is of no interest to me on any level. Don't speak to me unless it's about something work related".

Job done. You owe him nothing.

"I don't want to be in a relationship and we aren't friends so please stick to necessary work conversation only as we have both moved on"

Done.

Yes it's difficult working with an ex but something is making you keep engaging in these non work communications.

Be honest with yourself and investigate what that thing is.

You're doing yourself a disservice by continuing to speak to someone you don't even like.

Send a message saying work convo only. Stick to it. Move on.

Sorry I should have said that we work
Together. That's why it's hard

It's not hard. You're allowing it to continue. Tell him you will not have any conversations that are not work related and you will be blocking him from your phone, email and sm. It's time to grow up.

'Fuck off. I do NOT want to hear about your life or your relationship. I most certainly do NOT want do 'things' together. WTF is wrong with you? Leave me alone!'
And repeat!
Job done!

Tell him that he’s boring you and to stop contacting you. Block him and warn him that you’ll contact HR if he persists

Urgh I had a very similar situation with someone who I worked with. Honestly I could have written this post. Even when I blocked him on everything he used work email and messenger to contact me.

Inform management/HR - it's harassment and he could be in a lot of trouble. You shouldn't have to put up with that in the workplace. Needless to say he is trying to keep you on side as a back up option and being a typical narc he won't like the fact that he is being ignored. Please get this reported.

What sort of Job is it?
Can you move somewhere else?

The more I ignore, the more he tries to engage me in nonsense conversation and then I get more irritated.

So make him feel bad in these conversations, so he stops.

'Aw you do seem so wound up by all this. You know, you should think about some counselling or something... Just to help you learn how to detach, you know? You seem to let everyone get the upper hand. No need to be so insecure, other people really aren't thinking THAT badly of you. You've got to stop letting them bother you.'

Say these kinds of things in response to stuff even if it doesn't actually answer his question/comment. Make your replies to whatever he says slightly patronising and as if you think he sounds upset/pathetic/in a pickle. He won't like it and will soon stop trying to get you to engage if he ends up feeling as if you see him as inadequate.

He has now started to try to organise stuff for us to do together.

Aw sorry, I'm busy that evening... and the next... yes and the weekend too. I've just got lots on at the moment. No, nobody you know. You seem bothered! Are you lonely? Maybe a club would be a good idea. You can't let your happiness be dependent on other people you know. Like I said, counselling! You gotta be happy in your own skin. I'm sorry things are rough for you at the moment but like I said, I'm busy...'

Same approach.

What is he up to? Being a twat, probably!

You work together - is it a large company with HR or a small business? Is he your boss or supervisor, or just a colleague?

I,ve got a good reply.
You don't like cheats.
And since he is your ex you could never go out and do anything with him as you wouldn't want his partner to worry and misunderstand .