Excuses for sex

[ILoveMyFrenchie]

So i will try and keep this short.
Been together for 10 years.
Have a LO who is 3.
So not long after she was born he changed a lot (i suppose we both have) Anyway he can have such a negative attitude sometimes and it wears me down.
We barely have sex anymore... sometimes a couple of months go by... it started just from tiredness/opposite shift patterns etc but now due to his behaviour and the way he can be i just get put off by him... he tries often but i feel like hes being nice and its forced because he wants something and he constantly reminds me of how long its been. I love him, he is honestly my best friend and we have been together since teenagers however now it feels like that is all he is... a friend. I am not attracted to him in that way anymore and i feel like sex is a chore that i do not want to do.
I find myself making excuses and i feel guilty because i would be devastated if it were the other way round so have never spoke properly about it to him as i cannot find the words of how i am feeling without sounding hurtful.
Is it possible for feelings to come back or am i clutching straws here.
I dont want to break up as we have built a life together with our LO but then at the same time its not fair to be emotionally detached like this from eachother.
Anyone had any similar experiences in their marriage.

Do you spend time doing fun things together? Maybe organise regular childcare so that you two can spend time as a couple and remember what attracted you to him in the first place.

OP does he do his fair share around the house with child care and domestic chores so that it feels like a true partnership ?

If he doesn't and it mostly falls to you that is a huge passion killer. If he's good in that area but is just miserable all the time, can you talk and find out why? It's a bit of a chicken and egg situation: men need sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to want sex.

Maybe try relationship counselling ? It will give you both the space you need to air your feelings and thoughts and you will soon see if there's something there worth saving. You can definitely fall in and out of love several times in the course of a relationship so don't lose heart. Having babies and young children is very hard work and can put a lot of stress on a relationship.