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Today 22:55Mumstheword2790
I just would like some advice really, me and my partner have been together nearly 3 years we have children from past relationships and well it really has never been plain sailing. We met in the middle of me going through family court and c
Criminal with my ex domestic violence etc. 2 long years down the line me and my sons father are amicable but there are still issues, we went the correct way supervised contact the lot and well we are getting there, my partner was brilliant and stuck by me throughout, all that said an done my partners ex was an absolute nightmare at the beginning blamed me for them not getting back together even know it was months down the line. As time went on it all settled kids stayed every weekend then she met an idiot had him living with her and kids domestic violence etc and they split up, we were there for her helped her out. I have always stepped In with the kids if needed and will have them on my own when my partner is at work. Everything was going well until 2 weeks ago, out of the blue she gets really nasty gives my partner so much abuse, threatens shes moving away, I message her calm her down try to be there for her, it calmed for about a day and she starts again, our boys go to a club together and all of a sudden she pulls him out says she csnt do it with me anymore, I hadn't done anything wrong. Try to call her she blocks me, she blocks him and it goes on and on I lost it when she tried to contact me and said I no longer wish to be involved! She really has been vile, shes worked her way in using their sons phone giving him abuse how he lives with my son how he cares more about us doesnt care about his kids, and if she had a leg to stand on fair enough but the bloke should win father of the year hes bloody brilliant with them. I end up losing it at my partner the other night as shes going on she wished they never split, how he is so happy he left her all on her own, the kids need to live with them both, how why do I always have to be there for drop offs picks ups etc! Its just so crap to hear her going on I feel like a spare part and no longer good enough. I'm trying to be there for my partner but I feel this rage inside me that he just wont stand up to her but I get it, he cant she will just end up stooping contact. I have told him to go to court but it isnt a straight forward process I know that more than anyone. She really is ruining our lives and its tearing me and my partner apart. We just dont seem to be able to communicate anymore, we are arguing about her. I'm currently on the sofa as we have just rowed again! Literally at my wits in but I dont know how to be there for him when I feel so much anger at us going round and around. Waiting for another kick off to happen. Shes currently getting exactly what she wants, my partner thinks I'm selfish and making it about me! Please girls some advice I'm falling apart and think maybe we just arent meant to be if we cant stick together anymore. Am I really a selfish cow?? I'm so sick of all the drama I just would like a quiet life and it just never seems to happen x