Can't leave my baby

[Charlster77]

Has anyone else had problems leaving their baby with anyone else? My son is 5 weeks old and I have only managed to leave him for a total of 30 minutes since he was born. I feel awful as I panic even if I leave him with my husband who I know is the safest person for him to be left with. I got really upset the other day when my husband walked to shop with our son in his pram. I spent the whole time crying and dreading the worst. It is really annoying me as Im not usually like this and before I had him, was a VERY reational person!

Hm...remember only 5 weeks ago, your child was still inside you, always there, even closer , physically, then he will ever be...it's natures intent for us NOT to want to be apart from them...instinct basically...!
Alsoe there are plenty of hormones whirring about your body

So very normal and natural! dd is nearly 14months and i have left her 5 times-three times asleep, once with my mum to get my hair done and once to vote! And i hate it everytime! My mil and most friends with babies can't believe it but thats their problem imo!
why leave them if there is no real reason?!

I think it's normal too! I hardly ever leave DD (who will be three on Tues) and DS who was one a week last Fri.
Several friends/in laws think i'm paranoid i'm sure but I know what my kids want and I enjoy being with them.
DD is booked into start pre-school in Jan and i'm dreading it! She is fine about/with seperation and mixing and I know the one with the prob will be ME!

They have been left with their Dad (my DP) but I can't say I particularly ENJOY leaving them. It's been out of nessecity rather than want.

DS was 5 wks old when i first went out for the evening without him. i cried all the way there in the taxi, came home early and rushed to see him sleeping in his cot. Perfectly normal!

He's now 15mths, and stayed overnight at his grandfather's last night. I missed him by this morning, so i was looking forward to having him back, but the break was nice too!

Okay, now I feel totally abnormal and unnatural...

I went out with my mum when dd was 3 weeks old (SIL was babysitting) so she could buy up Mothercare on our behalf. We had a blast. When we got back, SIL said (rather patronisingly, so I thought at the time!) 'oh, I bet you were worried the whole time about her, I bet you didn't have a minute's peace til you got back'. I was 'ermm... no, you've had 3 kids, you know exactly what you're doing, I was no more than 15 mins walk away and I had my mobile, why on earth should I be worried about leaving dd with you?'

So obviously I'm a bit of a freak...

It took me a long time to leave dd1 but with dd2 (13 weeks) I have been a bit better at it. Not because I want to but because my sister wanted to take her out!
You are normal it just means you have bonded well with your baby. Enjoy him and only leave him when YOU want to.

Lovecat: you're not the only one. I left DS with my parents when he was about a fortnight old so I could go and have dinner with an old friend. (We were living with my parents at the time so he wasn't in an unfamiliar environment or with unfamiliar people, before the rest of MN explodes in horror).
I'm not trying to say that this makes me 'better' than the OP, just that everyone reacts differently, and we all need to do what feels right for us and our LOs at the time.

MadameZ - wasn't at all trying to imply that I'm 'better' than the OP, in fact this thread has made me feel I'm some kind of unnatural weirdo who never bonded properly with her child...

Lovecat - pease don't feel you're weird!! I was happy to leave my ds with people I trusted, from an early age too - I guess it's each to their own.

Lovecat, sorry, didn't mean you were trying to imply that, either. Had just wanted to reassure you that you (and anyone else reading who's done the same) weren't unnatural or wierd any more than the OP is weird for wanting to be with her baby al lthe time - we're just all different really.