Unusual weekend, DH and I went out together twice to see different former work colleagues of both of ours.
Last night I over heard DH replying to a normal sort of question to ask a 60 year old computer programmer, (I didn't hear the actual question but I assume it to be along the lines of "are you still working, any thoughts on retirement?). ASH answers was "yes I'm thinking of retiring'. Needless to say it's the first I'd heard of it.
Today I join him and friends for a pub lunch, they had been on a country walk, the weather wasn't great and I play tennis on Sunday mornings so I just joined them for lunch. One said he was doing a charity walk later in the year, another said they were all doing it, then DH said he had signed up to do it. Again the first I hear is after DH has got a place, someone said didn't you fancy it? I said I knew nothing about it. It's the looks in other people's faces when they realise that DH doesn't tell me what he's planning to do.
Strangely it's the walk that's upset me most, but the consequences of DH retiring will be massive. Surely he should at least tell me that he's planning to do this. In an ideal (normal) situation it would be a joint decision. It will impact our income, DH sitting for hours staring at his phone will drive me mad! Plus I'd want him to take on domestic duties if I carrying on working. It would be a massive change for him, plus at the age of 60 he'd have to start acting like an adult for the first time rather than the single carefree do as he pleases person he has been all his married life.
At new year I asked what we were going to do about holidays this year. He said he doesn't want to go on holidays like we've done in the past, such as visiting some where 'cultural' and seeing the sights. He wants to be more active and said he's going to learn to sail, the holiday is being planned with friends from work. All this decided by himself and told to me when he has made his decision.
I'm upset - he can cook his own bloody dinner tomorrow!