AIBU
Hi everyone!
Needing some advice before I drive myself mad...
I'll try and make the long story as short as possible! I had a crush on a guy at work for about 2 years, he was friendly to me and we would chat but he had a girlfriend so of course I respected that and we were purely friendly colleagues.
In chatting to him more over the course of 2019 he dropped into conversation that he is no longer with his GF (this was back in April/May 2019) and suggested going for a drink together some time. Life got busy, I was unwell and had some time off work, so we reconnected again in December just gone where I suggested to him "going for that drink that we never got round to" ... He said yes, and HE planned the location, the date and the time. (We went for a couple of drinks on Friday evening)
We had a really good time together, there was never an awkward silence, lots of laughter - the bar staff pretty much had to ask us to leave so that they could close! We then went for a walk together before heading back to my car where he told me he'd had fun with me, that he found it really good to be able to get to know me better outside of work, and he came in for a kiss which in all honesty took my breath away. For a first kiss, it was amazing!
However - I haven't heard from him since. It was pretty much early hours of Saturday morning when we left each other, so I know it's barely been 24 hours. I also know he worked yesterday afternoon and is on shift for 12 hours today (he works for the Ambulance Service) so he is busy.
The last thing he said to me was "I'll see you on Monday" with a little goodbye kiss (our shifts will cross over on Monday), but I am now going mad, checking my phone ALL THE TIME, acting like a teenager over this man. (**only in my head, not irl - I know it's important to play it cool!)
In my head, I admit that I am waiting for HIM to make the first contact post-date - I feel like because the "date" was MY suggestion, if he was truly interested in me he would be happy to reach out for Date #2. However, he was the one who did the bulk of the planning for this date, so he may be feeling the same about me ??
I know it is very old fashioned and out-dated for me to be "waiting for the man to make contact", and I appreciate it's only been just over 24 hours since we left each other, but I just wondered what you all make of this??? Does he sound interested? Playing games? Neither of the above??
Thanks all x