I met a man at a walking group about 3 years ago. I only saw him a couple times, within this time I have been busy pursuing other goals in my career and travel. When I did see him on walks he seemed socially awkward and I don't think he has been in a relationship even though he is in his 40s. For 2 and a half years he has messaged me every week. I feel like he is waiting on me to come back as some of the things he messages me you can tell he sees me as a romantic option.
There are some things I don't like about him. He has more than the average friends on Facebook. He meets all of these people through walking groups, meetups and social clubs in his town. I have also noticed he is always on Facebook when I log on. One pet hate is he feels the need to share 'jokes' in my inbox some which are offensive to women and a bit sexual. I don't know why he is so obsessed with me. We virtually have nothing in common, he drinks a lot and has only recently secured a full time job. He did have a part time job but always messed up interviews for full time work which doesn't surprise me as he probably hardly practiced for interviews as he was always online.
Why does he think I would want to date a social media addict who is a blatant socialite as sometimes he never remembers important things about me. He will even message me to say how my football team has lost but never mentions when his team loses. Why would I want to hear about my football team losing as that is negative news. He tends to dwell on his mother a lot who has passed, I know this is extremely difficult but I feel he should seek counselling and not keep telling me how his life has been majorly affected. I don't feel equipped to deal with another person's emotions in relation to bereavement who I have probably only met 8 times. I am positive person and know this man is not right for me. I want to meet a man who does have a friends and goals but is not so fixated on meeting new people all the time or not improving his life. How can I get rid of this drain?