Constantly worried he’s going to end it, please help

[SallyShoes80]

Been together only 4 months. He’s not given me any reason to think he will end it! He’s not one for rushing the relationship, we’ve not said we love each other etc but we see each other weekly at the least and sometimes in the week as well.

I’ve not liked someone as much as him in a very long time. I’ve had many many dates, nearly all I’ve turned down for a second one. The reality for me is that I don’t want to lose him even though it’s early days! He’s exactly what I was looking for (not perfect but ticks most things on my list!!) No idea if he feels the same way and guessing he doesn’t feel that way yet as it’s so early on.

Any tips on how I can relax and stop feeling this way? I’m in therapy and talking this through but it’s only fortnightly at the moment because of cost.

Stopping feeling something is a big ask - but while you're working on that, you can focus on keeping that feeling tightly under wraps.

Try to think of this new relationship as a delicate little flower that you're delightedly hugging to yourself and nurturing - no need to tell everyone about it yet as you don't know where it's going.

Be careful not to let your excitement cloud your judgment if there are little red flags emerging as you get to know him. Remember that you are deciding whether to choose him, as well as him deciding whether to choose you. Good luck!

Don't, whatever you do, let him know you feel this way. It's clingy and stifling

Take a massive step back. Would you rather be with someone who is equally investing/ planning and recipricating as in they are truly into you?
Your anxiety is natural when you have 'something' or 'someone' you are desperate not too lose, but it will seem like desperation and that will drive anyone away. Or even worse they will totally take you for granted and not see you as high value.
Step back and focus on yourself, fill your time with hobbies, friends, work, relaxation or this will burn out. Good luck let it blossom naturally.

Reading with interest, good advice above

If he was love bombing you, that would be a massive red flag - the absence of such a huge red flag is a great thing! Good luck OP.

Oh how I hate that awful tense, anxiety feeling at the beginning of a relationship with someone you really really like and dont know its reciprocated. It fills your mind all day and night. Hang on to your sanity and breathe through the whizzing thoughts. Keep calm and cool, you dont know how he feels as it may be too soon for him to even think about how he feels. He may be just taking it day by day as should you. I feel for you but good luck.