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What is friendship these days

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HelloDeidre · 25/01/2020 17:54

I have a friend I met through work. I worked with this person for nearly 2 years and we were inseparable.However I was a contractor and this person was a permanent member of staff. Over a year ago the company downsized and all contractors were let go .Permanent members of staff had to reply for a reduced number of posts.My friend applied for a more senior post and got promotion.During this process I was very supportive ,you know bigging them up and helping with mock interviews, etc .We worked on the same projects and at the same level even though I had more experience. I helped them alot with their confidence
My situation is different as I had to take time out for an operation for some months and over the last few months have been looking for a permanent job in the same industry after many years as a contractor as contracting is almost obsolete . My friend has sent the odd text with a message saying good luck at interview.I have not been successful so far despite having many years experience and I am applying for jobs more junior than my friends
In the last 2 weeks I have had 2 interviews and been very upset to not get either job..( i am beginning to think there is a level of ageism involved but that is a different story).Anyway I text my friend after both results to say I have not got the jobs ...no response
Now my friend has been promoted and I am applying for a job 2 grades below theirs I asked for them to write a testimonial for me....and no response.

This is not a good friend is it ?
I hate to be a burden but no reply is pretty bad
What do you think

OP posts:
SuperMeerkat · 25/01/2020 18:16

Unless you’re aware of a big event In their life (bereavement etc) then, no, they are
Not being a good friend. Sadly a lot of people are very selfish and it seems as though your friend has got what they needed and isn’t interested in reciprocating Flowers

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