Ghosted by a friend for no apparent reason

[Phoenixxx]

It's a gay male friend I have known for around 5 year, he's very laid back, easy going and friendly. We used to speak every 2 weeks on average and met every month, sometimes every couple of weeks. He would see other friends a few times a week, he loves going out, but i'm more introverted.
Anyway I was meant to see him about 10 days ago. He had invited me to another friend's house for a meal that night, I asked him to let me know what time etc. And he said he would.
He never got back to me, and the next day I asked if it had gone ahead after all, no reply.
Messaged again 2 days later, no reply.
Sent a final message 3 days ago saying I was a bit confused and was everything ok, had I done something to upset him,no reply.

I think he's blocked my messages on Facebook because he is still appearing as online, messages just arent being read or delivered.

Very confused. I've literally always got on well, don't think i've ever offended him and after 5 years you would think he wouldn't just do this to me if I had.

We weren't even that close so I don't think he decided I was too much or clingy etc. Literally no idea what's happened and hurt.

Sometimes people have a shakedown of their life and sadly throw the baby out with the Bath water when they abandon all for a new them. Hard though it is, if you know you were good enough before and have done nothing out of turn, it’s not going to be personal really. It’s him, not you.

I had a friendship for a few years where we'd meet up with our kids a couple of times a month and although we were very different people we got on well and I considered her a good friend, however the last year I increasingly found that I just wasn't enjoying her company as she started making snide comments and generally being a bit arsey in my company and taking the piss. I felt quite uncomfortable around her. I never had a conversation with her as such about it but decided I didn't really want to bother anymore.

Our meetings gradually became less and our children outgrew each other naturally anyway and I don't really see her now. She probably thinks I've ghosted her but if she had genuinely tried to keep pursuing the friendship I would have told her she was being a horrible prick. But not unless she asks.

If I bump into her now I would say hello etc and I waved to her in the street the other day when I saw her at a distance so we've not fallen out really.

Maybe it's the same with this chap? Unknowingly he may just not enjoy your company any longer.

OP.. you are doing the right thing... Ignore those people who are ignoring you .. and don't waste your energy trying to find out reasons/excuses why... it's not your job to chase friendships.. friendships should not be hard work... life is too shot to fill it with people with moody hang ups...

Is he gay or bi? Maybe he has feelings for you. Are you attached op?

Thank you, yeah maybe he's decided he's not that fussed about me, who knows.
I'm pretty sure he's gay, well i've never known of him with a girl anyway. He's very sexual and makes a lot of innuendos or talks about men he's met on Grindr.
I don't think he's got feelings for me, he's made comments about the way I look but don't think anything was meant by it.

And i'm single ! He's always told me that guys i've dated are 'hot'.

I've had a really close friend do this. We still work in the same office (18 months from the ghosting) We see each other 3 days a week. To start with, she was letting doors go in my face, passing so close to me she'd knock me off balance, very very passive aggressive. That's stopped now but I've never known what went wrong. I did wonder if she was going through a rough time, but she spends plenty of time having a good laugh at work.
I just pretend she doesn't exist, now. I look right through her. It hurts for a while, but basically they're just proving what cowards they are. Nothing more.

I have no idea about why this friend has done this, but just wanted to say that you don't sound high maintenance, at all.

Do you know his address so you could write to him? Could he be having mental health issues or be unwell? It’s hard to know when you’ve not had an argument wtf is going on.

Thank you. I know his address but I feel like if he's ignoring my messages he will probably ignore a letter too :(
It's a shame really.

My very close friend ghosted me because my life didn't meet her new terribly respectable standards. Or she was afraid I might tell her ghastly prick of a husband how many men she had slept with (like I care but she had lied to him). Then she had a loss in her life and was on the phone begging for support. Then she started pulling away again, so I thought fuck this and blocked her. If she phoned me now, I'd hang up, to be honest, I don't miss what she became.

He should answer you but from what you've said it's probably nothing you've done or nothing to do with you. He could be ignoring lots of people. It's probably something personal that's happening. Try not to think too much of it at the moment or worry. Some people when they get depressed or go through difficult times block others out.